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Friend to Friend December 7, 2022

As Way Opens

 

At the start of December, one of my traditions is to take Howard Thurman’s book, The Mood of Christmas off my bookshelf and read through it again.  I love what he writes in his prologue, “The mood of Christmas - what is it?  It is a quickening of the presence of other human beings into whose lives a precious part of one’s own has been released.  It is a memory of other days when into one’s path an angel appeared spreading a halo over an ordinary moment or a commonplace event.  It is an iridescence of sheer delight that bathes one’s whole being with something more wonderful than words can ever tell.  Of such is the mood of Christmas.”

 

This is the mood that I want to step into during this Christmas season.  Our Vespers service last Sunday evening brought me into this place of Presence with the beautiful music and readings. I have attended our Vespers service for over 30 years and I am always deeply moved by all of us lighting individual candles that collectively bring light to our Meeting Room as we sing Silent Night together.  I think about Thurman’s poem I will Light Candles this Christmas.

 

Candles of joy, despite all sadness,

Candles of hope where despair keeps watch.

Candles of courage for fears ever present,

Candles of peace for tempest-tossed days,

Candles of grace to ease heavy burdens,

Candles of love to inspire all my living,

Candles that will burn all the year long.

 

This is my prayer for all of us as we light our candles in our homes and our communities this season.

Beth


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This past Sunday we gathered to celebrate our annual Christmas Vespers and Dinner! What a beautiful night of worship as we  officially begin our journey to Christmas. Thank you to all those who made the night simply fantastic.

Seasoned Friends had a great day in Wabash this week visiting the Eagles Theatre, the Honeywell Center and Charley Creek Inn. Thank you to Sara E for arranging this wonderful tour and lunch.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Notice: As you may be aware, a number of choir members and other attenders at worship have recently tested positive for COVID. All respiratory illnesses seem to be escalating in Indianapolis right now. The good news is, at First Friends we have the tools we need to stay healthy: vaccines, effective ventilation and air purification systems, and masks if we choose to use them. As we worship and celebrate the season together, please make the appropriate decisions for yourself as to attending Meeting and other activities at the Meetinghouse in person and/or wearing masks, remembering that there are others in our lives (very young, very old, and/or immuno-compromised) who need protection.

Whether we see you in person or online, we are blessed to share in worship and fellowship with you this Holiday Season! Thank you.

 

Seeking Friends: Due to the busy Holiday Season, Seeking Friends will be taking a hiatus until the New Year.  We will return on Sunday, January 8 at 9am. Enjoy an extra hour before joining us for worship.

First Friends Financial Update: You are invited to spread holiday cheer by making a pledge to First Friends Meeting for 2023. Your pledge is extremely helpful in making a budget for the new year. Click to pledge online, or contact the office at office@indyfriends.org, 317-255-2485, for a pledge card to be mailed to you.

The Meeting also seeks support in closing out 2022, as we currently are experiencing a deficit. To donate online, visit indyfriends.org/support/#givenow, or text to give at 317-768-0303. Other means of support include automatic giving, stock gifts, estate planning, and donation of IRA Required Minimum Distributions. For assistance, please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org, 317-255-2485.

 

Puzzle fans--a new jigsaw puzzle will be available in Fellowship Hall on Sunday, December 11. The puzzle shows used stamps from all over the world. 

Puzzlers and non-puzzlers:

--Remember to bring in your own stamps, whether used or unused, to benefit Right Sharing of World Resources. 

--If you'd like to help the stamp team earn money for RSWR, contact the office. It's fun and helps a good cause.

 

Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us this Sunday, December 11th immediately after worship for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate cookies, they can be dropped off on the morning of Sunday, December 12th. (Please, no cookies with peanuts or peanut products.) For more information contact Jody L. Happy holidays!

Join First Friends for Caroling! ~ EVERYONE is invited to join us for Christmas caroling this Sunday, December 11. We will meet at Marquette Manor HEALTH CENTER, 8140 Township Line Rd., no later than 3:20 p.m. At the second entrance going south on Township Line, turn right and tell the guard you will be caroling at the Health Center, which is at the back of the complex. Take the elevator to the 2nd floor and proceed to the Sun Room. We will sing at two other locations and then eat at a family friendly place afterwards. Carol Donahue will distribute details at Marquette for the remaining itinerary. Call or text Carol if you have questions.

 

Men’s Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next in-person meeting on Thursday, December 15 at 7:00pm. See locations for 2022 here.

 

Babysitting Co-Op ~ We will have a babysitting co-op on Saturday, December 17th from 5:00 - 9:00 for any of our kids. This is a great opportunity for parents to drop their kids off and have an evening out. Dinner will be provided for the kids. They will be making cookies in a jar and soup in a jar to be sold after Meeting on December 18th along with chocolates and coffee to raise money for Mohammed’s family to move to Canada. We hope your kids will join us in the fun that night!

 

Illuminate Bible Study ~ Finding Purpose Together (with Christ as Present Teacher) is the new topic of the First Friends Bible study. You are cordially invited to join the Bible study. It meets by Zoom on Thursday nights from 7:30 to 8:30. We have begun this 13-week course from the Illuminate Series of Barclay Press called Christ as Present Teacher: Finding Purpose Together. The series was recommended by Bob Henry. The physical book is out of print, but the book is available for $5.00 either as an ePub book or as a pdf. To receive a copy, email Mareesa Fawver Moss at mfawver@barclaypress.com. To receive a Zoom link, email the First Friends office at office@indyfriends.org.

 

Meditational Woods  Bird of the Month for December

Red-winged Blackbird: Boys’ Day Out Tailgating

Although I try to feature a new species each month, this bird deserves to be brought back because of the feasting and partying I witnessed in late November here at the meetinghouse. One morning there was carrying-on happening in the courtyard patio in the sweet gum tree. In late November and early December the last flocks of Red-winged Blackbirds are passing through on their way south. As I was making my way to the building, I caught a glimpse of several black birds up in the tree. There were four MALE red-winged blackbirds eating the sweet gum balls (not to be confused with sweet gumballs). The food was not the ball itself, but something inside. I picked up a few and shook out some seeds and a sawdust-like material. So it is the seeds that they are after, and the sawdust ends up covering the courtyard. Our tree serves other species, including chickadees, titmice, nuthatches, goldfinches, house finches, and of course, house sparrows, to name just a few.

Back to the gender issue: Later that same day I was birding a park several miles away, and saw a tree filled with dozens of blackbirds…all females; not a male to be seen! I recalled that on one of my first out-of-state birding experiences, in Florida, my brother showed me a cattail marsh with hundreds of red-wing blackbirds…ALL FEMALES!! The genders winter separately!! Although this idea may be of interest to humans, the reader should keep in mind that in the spring, the males return first, and set out territories, and then the females arrive, and pick their NEW mate based on who has the best territory for nesting. This is not a behavior I recommend for humans! So celebrate the holidays with family and friends, worshipping, caroling, tailgating, cooking out, dining out, shopping, and sports watching, but remember, with us, love IS the big idea! ~Story and Photos by Brad Jackson

 

Creation Care Team Reorganizing!

Are you interested in learning more about caring for God’s remarkable creation that is our home? Would you like to support activities that make First Friends a witness to right relationship with the earth and its inhabitants? If you’d like to learn more about Creation Care, you can sign up for more information here. We will hold an organizational meeting in January 2023.

In the meantime, here are 3 faith-based groups that may be of interest to you.

Quaker Earthcare Witness         Faith in Place         Evangelical Environmental Network

Soul Sisters - beginning January 8 ~ This fall’s Women’s Retreat fostered many opportunities for the women of our meeting to find connection and reflection. In the following days and weeks, we heard loud and clear that the women of our meeting are hungry for the company, connection and support we find among one another. We would like to invite all women to join us for lunch after meeting on January 8. Food and childcare will be provided. We ask only that you bring yourself and a few ideas for the formation of our new women’s group. Specifically, we would love to know:

·       what days/times may be best

·       how often you want to meet

·       any obstacles we may need to overcome for women to be able to participate

·       any particular ideas or activities you would like to see offered

If you are interested in attending, we would appreciate an RSVP to the office at office@indyfriends.org or 317-255-2485. We look forward to celebrating this new group of Soul Sisters, and we are excited to see what we build together.

 

Overman Scholarship Fund Drive ~ The Overman Scholarship fund, in memory of Jesse & Marilyn Overman and Mark Overman, awards scholarships to members of First Friends attending higher academic or vocational/Quaker institutions. If you’d like to support this worthy cause, we encourage you to donate. For the next 4 years, the Overman family will match donations up to a certain amount! Checks can be payable to “Indianapolis Monthly Meeting of Friends Trustees.” In the memo line, note "Overman Scholarship Fund.” Or you can donate securely on our website at https://www.indyfriends.org/support. Just choose “Overman Scholarship Fund” as the fund. Or text “Overman” to 317-768-0303. Thank you for your support!

Help Refugees in Need: The meeting for business Oct. 16 approved a proposal to help raise money for the family of Peter K’s Syrian employee Mohammad to emigrate from Turkey to Canada. The family of 6 has lived as refugees in Turkey for several years, and now are threatened with forceful repatriation. Because of Mohammad’s involvement with Peter, the family would be in great danger if they re-enter Syria. The family has approval of the Canadian government to enter as privately sponsored refugees provided that a certain amount of money will be held in a secure account to meet the family’s living expenses for the first year. The meeting will work with Ed and Paula K to raise the money by having an account into which tax-deductible donations can be held until they are submitted to Canada. To donate, mail in a check or drop it in the Sunday offering plate with the memo line “Mohammad’s family.” Or you can donate electronically online on our secure website at https://www.indyfriends.org/support, and choose “Mohammad’s family” as the fund, or text Mohammad to 317-768-0303. The K family express their gratitude to the meeting for agreeing to help facilitate this urgent need.


This Week’s Queries

·       How will I share the important message of Mary’s Magnificat this Holiday Season?

·       Who needs to hear it, today?

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Friend to Friend November 30, 2022

As Way Opens

 With our annual Blue Christmas Meeting for Worship complete, the simple holiday decorations up around the Meetinghouse (thanks to Leslie Kartholl), and the “Wreathing of the Meeting” taking place after worship on Sunday, the Holiday Season has officially begun at First Friends! We now are ready to begin our journey to Christmas!

This year, I have already been reflecting on Christmas for several months as I have been putting together new worship experiences for us during the Holidays. Part of any preparation as Quakers is asking oneself some queries – something you will see reflected in all our holiday worship experiences this year.

Personally, I have been reflecting on the following Christmas queries, which were written to help one seek in the spirit of the season by Wellesley Friends Meeting (NEYM). I sense you might find them helpful as you begin your journey to Christmas this year.

On Simplicity:
In this time of commercialism, how do you reflect values of simplicity? In what ways do you and your family reflect on the significance of Jesus' life and his teachings regarding simplicity? Is your gift giving in line with these values? Have you been able to find rituals that enhance the experience of the Inner Light?

On Peace:
At this time of year, there is more attention given to "Peace on Earth." Is there significance in the birth of Jesus, the "Prince of Peace" that calls us to actively seek peace? What do you do to promote peace in the world? Are you able to find inner peace amid everyday busyness? Do you walk gently and peacefully on the Earth, seeking that of God in others and in nature?

On Light:
In this time of winter darkness and cold, where do you find Light in your life? As the shepherds waited for the good news, do you wait with an open heart for revelation? How do you and your family seek the Light and share it with others? Have you been able to find rituals that enhance the experience of the Inner Light?

On Preparation:
How does you or your family get ready for Christmas? What do you wish you or your family did around Christmas? At what age did you start giving presents to other people? Did someone work on them with you?

As we make our journey to Christmas, my prayer for First Friends is that we will take the time to experience all that God wants to reveal and birth in us this holiday season. I look forward to you journeying and celebrating with us as we seek the spirit of the season, together!

Grace and peace,

Bob


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MANY THANKS to Leslie K
for the beautiful Christmas decorations in the Meetinghouse! She has a real eye for making the Meetinghouse look beautiful yet still exemplify Quaker simplicity. We hope you will enjoy the decorations this holiday season, and be sure to say “thanks” to Leslie!

 

The celebration of life for Samuel Logan S, III will take place on Saturday, January 14 at 11 a.m. at the First Friends Meetinghouse.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities

Notice: As you may be aware, a number of choir members and other attenders at worship have recently tested positive for COVID. All respiratory illnesses seem to be escalating in Indianapolis right now. The good news is, at First Friends we have the tools we need to stay healthy: vaccines, effective ventilation and air purification systems, and masks if we choose to use them. As we worship and celebrate the season together, please make the appropriate decisions for yourself as to attending Meeting and other activities at the Meetinghouse in person and/or wearing masks, remembering that there are others in our lives (very young, very old, and/or immuno-compromised) who need protection.

Whether we see you in person or online, we are blessed to share in worship and fellowship with you this Holiday Season! Thank you.

 

Illuminate Bible Study ~ Finding Purpose Together (with Christ as Present Teacher) is the new topic of the First Friends Bible study. You are cordially invited to join the Bible study. It meets by Zoom on Thursday nights from 7:30 to 8:30. TOMORROW, December 1, we will begin the 13-week course from the Illuminate Series of Barclay Press called Christ as Present Teacher: Finding Purpose Together. The series was recommended by Bob Henry. The physical book is out of print, but the book is available for $5.00 either as an ePub book or as a pdf. To receive a copy, email Mareesa Fawver Moss at mfawver@barclaypress.com. To receive a Zoom link, email the First Friends office at office@indyfriends.org.

Order Poinsettias Now! It’s that time of year! At this time of year, we take orders for red and white poinsettias which you can buy in memory of a passed loved one or in honor of someone special in your life. We use these poinsettias to decorate the Meetingroom during the month of December, then on Christmas Eve we invite you to take your flowers home with you after the service to enjoy at home for the holidays! If you’d like to order flowers, they are $8.00 each for a 6” potted red or white poinsettia plant. Simply email or call the office at office@indyfrineds.org or 317-255-2485 and let us know how many flowers and what color(s) you’d like to order, and if those flowers are in memory or honor of someone. Please have your orders in by Saturday, December 3rd. Payment can be mailed to the meeting, dropped in the offering plate on a Sunday with the memo “flowers” or paid online at https://www.indyfriends.org/support - under the fund, choose “flower order.” On Sunday, December 11 we will share in the bulletin who the poinsettias were provided by, and who they are in memory of. We hope you will take part in this annual First Friends holiday tradition!

Christmas Vespers Concert ~ Our annual Christmas Vespers on Sunday, December 4th at 5:30pm is always a wonderful tradition at First Friends. Our theme is “The Journey to Christmas” where we will prepare for the season through music, readings, and queries. Plan to experience all the First Friends choirs, some special guest musicians, and a candlelit singing of Silent Night to end the night. This will be an opportunity for you and your family to renew old traditions and make new ones this season. Following Vespers, we will join in the Fellowship Hall for a wonderful dinner hosted by the Fellowship Committee - everyone is invited. If you’d like to attend, please RSVP by contacting the office at office@indyfriends.org or 317-255-2485. We hope you will share with us in this annual tradition!

 

Indy Winds Flute Choir Concert ~ You’re invited to a holiday concert by the Indy Winds Flute Choir! It will be held Saturday, December 3rd at 3:00 PM at Union Chapel United Methodist Church, 2720 E 86th St. The concert will include a variety of classical and holiday music. Soloists Carl Butler and Lynda Sherer will be featured on the Corelli Christmas Concerto. We hope you will attend!

 

Seasoned Friends ~ Seasoned Friends will gather on Tuesday, December 6th for a field trip to Wabash. Friends are invited to carpool by meeting at First Friends at 9:30 or join us in Wabash at 11am. We will see the Eagles Theater, have lunch at the Honeywell building, and see the Charley Creek Inn. We welcome anyone that considers themselves a Seasoned Friend to join us. If you’re interested, please RSVP to the Meeting Office at office@indyfriends.org or 317-255-2485.

 

Creation Care Notes:  As we read about the events at the United Nations Climate Change Conference COP 27, we can dismiss it as something that is happening, “way over there “.

When we love God and our neighbor, our neighbors around the globe are being affected by the weather “weirding” that is happening. Americans along both coasts have suffered from more powerful storms and heat causing billions of dollars of damage. Until the recent rains, we have been 2.5 inches below normal precipitation and we are still behind in our rain events.  The rivers are low, the ground has been dry and our reservoirs are below normal levels. Two important milestones have been reached in the protracted negotiations:  Provide “loss and damage” funding for vulnerable countries hit hard by climate-related disasters and recommitting to limit global temperature rise to 1.5 degrees Celsius above pre-industrial levels. Early warning systems for severe weather events and drought are being developed globally.

How can we help here in Indiana? How can we be mindful about how much water we use?  How can we make our homes more energy efficient to reduce the carbon that we put in the air and ocean? More information about residential energy efficiency will roll out soon with the recently passed Inflation Reduction Act.

The Evangelical Environmental Network invites congregations to learn more about how houses of worship can benefit from this new program. 

Join our free webinar on Wednesday, December 14 at 12:00 pm EST to learn about new rebates and grants that enable churches to be better financial and environmental stewards and apply those savings to missions and outreach. Register here!

 

Creation Care Team Reorganizing!

Are you interested in learning more about caring for God’s remarkable creation that is our home?  Would you like to support activities that make First Friends a witness to right relationship with the earth and its inhabitants?  If you’d like to learn more about Creation Care, you can sign up for more information here. We will hold an organizational meeting in January 2023.

In the meantime, here are 3 faith-based groups that may be of interest to you.

Quaker Earthcare Witness         Faith in Place       Evangelical Environmental Network

 

Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us on December 11th immediately after worship for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate cookies, they can be dropped off on the morning of Sunday, December 12th. (Please, no cookies with peanuts or peanut products.) For more information or to schedule another dropoff time, contact the office. Happy holidays!

Join First Friends for Caroling! ~ If you’d like to join us for caroling to some of our dear Friends and neighbors, meet us on Sunday, December 11 at 3:20pm at Marquette Manor (8140 Township Line Road Indianapolis, IN 46260). Tune in later for more details!

Babysitting Co-Op ~ We will have a babysitting co-op on Saturday, December 17th from 5:00 - 9:00 for any of our kids. This is a great opportunity for parents to drop their kids off and have an evening out. Dinner will be provided for the kids. They will be making cookies in a jar and soup in a jar to be sold after Meeting on December 18th along with chocolates and coffee to raise money for Mohammed’s family to move to Canada. We hope your kids will join us in the fun that night!

Oak Leaf: Meeting for Reading would like you to join us from virtually anywhere in the world as we discuss The Dictionary of Lost Words by Pip Williams. In 1901, the word ‘Bondmaid’ was discovered missing from the Oxford English Dictionary. This is the story of the girl who stole it.

Esme is born into a world of words. Motherless and irrepressibly curious, she spends her childhood in the ‘Scriptorium’, a garden shed in Oxford where her father and a team of dedicated lexicographers are collecting words for the very first Oxford English Dictionary. Esme’s place is beneath the sorting table, unseen and unheard. One day a slip of paper containing the word ‘bondmaid’ flutters to the floor. Esme rescues the slip and stashes it in an old wooden case that belongs to her friend, Lizzie, a young servant in the big house. Esme begins to collect other words from the Scriptorium that are misplaced, discarded or have been neglected by the dictionary men. They help her make sense of the world.

Over time, Esme realizes that some words are considered more important than others, and that words and meanings relating to women’s experiences often go unrecorded. While she dedicates her life to the Oxford English Dictionary, secretly, she begins to collect words for another dictionary: The Dictionary of Lost Words.

Set when the women’s suffrage movement was at its height and the Great War loomed, The Dictionary of Lost Words reveals a lost narrative, hidden between the lines of a history written by men. It’s a delightful, lyrical and deeply thought-provoking celebration of words, and the power of language to shape the world and our experience of it. 

We will gather in the parlor and simultaneously via Zoom starting at 7 pm EST on Tuesday, December 27th led by Kathy R. Everyone is welcome!

Overman Scholarship Fund Drive ~ The Overman Scholarship fund, in memory of Jesse & Marilyn Overman and Mark Overman, awards scholarships to members of First Friends attending higher academic or vocational/Quaker institutions. If you’d like to support this worthy cause, we encourage you to donate. For the next 4 years, the Overman family will match donations up to a certain amount! Checks can be payable to “Indianapolis Monthly Meeting of Friends Trustees.” In the memo line, note "Overman Scholarship Fund.” Or you can donate securely on our website at https://www.indyfriends.org/support. Just choose “Overman Scholarship Fund” as the fund. Or text “Overman” to 317-768-0303. Thank you for your support!

 

Help Refugees in Need: The meeting for business Oct. 16 approved a proposal to help raise money for the family of Peter K’s Syrian employee Mohammad to emigrate from Turkey to Canada. The family of 6 has lived as refugees in Turkey for several years, and now are threatened with forceful repatriation. Because of Mohammad’s involvement with Peter, the family would be in great danger if they re-enter Syria. The family has approval of the Canadian government to enter as privately sponsored refugees provided that a certain amount of money will be held in a secure account to meet the family’s living expenses for the first year. The meeting will work with Ed and Paula K to raise the money by having an account into which tax-deductible donations can be held until they are submitted to Canada. To donate, mail in a check or drop it in the Sunday offering plate with the memo line “Mohammad’s family.” Or you can donate electronically online on our secure website at https://www.indyfriends.org/support, and choose “Mohammad’s family” as the fund, or text Mohammad to 317-768-0303. The K family express their gratitude to the meeting for agreeing to help facilitate this urgent need.

 

Mark your calendars for Oak Leaf: Meeting for Reading book club titles for 2023!

January 31 ~ The Netanyahus by Joshua Cohen

February 28 ~ The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

March 28 ~ This Tender Land by William Kent Krueger

April 25 ~ Yonder by Jabari Asim

May 30 ~ Horse by Geraldine Brooks

June 27 ~ The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain

July 25 ~ Clark and Division by Naomi Hirahara

August 29 ~ The Personal Librarian by Marie Benedict

September 26 ~ Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer

October 31 ~ Freckles by Gene Stratton-Porter

November 28 ~ The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien

December 26 ~ The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway

The group meets at 7pm either on Zoom or in the Parlor. To sign up for the email list, please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org.

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