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12-15-19 - Love Carries You

Love Carries You

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

December 15, 2019

A Reading from the Book of God

Wendell Berry is known as a poet, essayist, environmental activist, cultural critic, and farmer, but he is also considered a novelist.  In his novel, Hannah Coulter, (which I highly recommend) he wrote this about love:

Love is what carries you, for it is always there, even in the dark, or most in the dark, but shining out at times like gold stitches in a piece of embroidery. 

I absolutely love that quote and its images. Actually, I have played that quote over and over in my mind since the day I read Hannah Coulter several years ago. It speaks to my soul.  And It spoke to me again this week as I was preparing this sermon.

Let’s be honest…

  • How many of us feel overwhelmed currently?

  • How many of us are not prepared for Christmas?

  • How many of us have begun to get a little on edge, even argumentative, or testy?

  • How many of us aren’t looking forward to the family getting together this Christmas? Or maybe you wished they were?

  • How many of us just aren’t feeling the love this holiday season?

Love is often one of the last emotions or feelings we experience during this crazy time of year.

  • ·        Love?  I don’t have time for love – I need to wrap presents.

  • ·        Love? I don’t have time for love – I need to go to this party, or that concert, or this program.

  • ·        Love? I don’t have time for love – I need to clean the house, figure out what to do with the kids, go to the grocery store.

  • ·        Love?  Bahumbug!

Yet love is more that words or feelings.  Love is what our Christmas presents - our giving should be all about.

  • Love is the attitude we should have when going to parties and to relatives and loved one’s homes.

  • Love is what we should put into cleaning our homes.

  • Love should be the inspiration for spending time with our family.

  • Love should be the impetus for making Christmas cookies, baking wonderful meals, decorating our homes.

But too often it isn’t “love that carries us” as Wendell Berry said, but rather it is obligation, tradition, “keeping up with the Jones” and appearances that we allow to carry us – and then that drop us unexpectedly.

These are the very things that take us into darkness and cause us to miss the true love of Christmas.

In our last meeting, we had some friends named Troy and Kama who were what I would call modern day shepherds. They loved animals and actually took care of an Animal Sanctuary.  One morning, Sue and I received a call to come and be with Troy and Kama as one of their special goats, Lilliam, was about to pass.  As we stood in the stable watching Troy and Kama care for this creature, we could see the love that they had for Lilliam.  It was overwhelming to be in the presence of a real manger with hay, surrounded by other animals who were truly grieving with Troy and Kama over Lilliam. In the silence, you could tangibly see the love and care being shared in this place. I can’t even explain the beauty of this experience and the deep connectedness we felt with all of creation.  What we were witnessing was love shining out of that stable.  There was a deep sense of love of family among animals and humans.  It was love that literally carried them through this “dark” time.

This is what the season is all about. Love shining out of the darkness and bringing everything into perspective.

Take a moment and ponder for yourself, where you have seen “love shining out like gold stitches in a piece of embroidery” in your life lately. 

And since we acknowledge that God is love – where has God been carrying you through the darkness of life?

If anyone has experienced being “carried by love through the darkness” it has to be Zechariah and Elizabeth. 

  • They had both been overwhelmed (probably still were).

  • They probably felt a little unprepared.

  • I am sure without Zechariah being able to speak or hear it caused some family squabbles – “Can’t you hear me?” “Are you listening?” “Say something already!” “I am pregnant here!”

  • And as a Jewish Priest – Zechariah I am sure at times struggled with obligations, traditions, and appearances.

Yet today we heard how “love truly carried them through.  Take Elizabeth for example - Love carried Elizabeth through.

  • Love helped Elizabeth believe that her age, her physical body, and her mental capacity would hold up under such miraculous situations.

  • Love carried her through the worry, the rumors in town, and at the synagogue, the wondering if her body could actually take giving birth (something extremely risky and dangerous for her age and time in history).

For us this morning, what currently has you worried, wondering, even fearing the “darkness” of life?

Are there any “gold stiches” (love) shining through your embroidery (life)?

Love also carried Zechariah, too.

I believe most of us in this room would have a hard time if suddenly we were unable to hear or speak.  For Zechariah this was devastating to his job, family, and life in general.

Trying to explain all that had happened to him through tablets must have been extremely frustrating.  Today it may have been easier – all he would need is a text plan and lot of emojies!

Every time I read this story, I can’t help but think of the times I have left “speechless” by something that has happened in my life – and then literally not being able to shut up about God’s faithfulness and love for me afterwards.

I remember a few years ago when I received a phone call right as I arrived at work that my parents had been in a horrific care accident (on my wife’s birthday).  I was speechless.  I had not words.  Literally the world lost sound and I struggled to speak.  But as they recovered and I saw God’s love through the people around me – my joy could not be contained.  I feel today, my entire family has new voices because God’s love carried us through the darkness of that time. 

Again, take a moment to ask yourself - what in your life has caused you to be “speechless”? How has or is God given(ing) you a new voice?

Zechariah broke into song and prophecy! He let loose all that was bottled up inside him for those 9 months! He had time to process, to get over some of the worries and anxieties. When he finally had the opportunity to speak again – he began with a series of blessings. 

  • Blessed be the Lord of Israel.

  • He then exclaimed how God had blessed his people, his ancestors, his family.

  • And finally he picks up John in his arms and blesses him.

Folks, what if our response at the end of a time of waiting or going through darkness was to bless as Zechariah did?

I think it is interesting that iword.com defines blessings as:

1.     The “act of words” of one that blesses (how appropriate for one who had no words).

2.     Help and approval of God.

3.     A thing conducive to happiness or welfare.

Whom, with your own words, do you need to bless this Christmas? Who are you noticing being a blessing in your life, family, work, etc…

When we bless each other we spread happiness and welfare and we too become the LOVE that carries each other through.  Folks, let us work to be the love and blessing this Christmas!  

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12-8-19 - Mary's Search for Peace

Mary’s Search for Peace

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

December 13, 2019

 

A Reading from The Book of God

 

One Christmas, a few years ago, I received a card with a quote by an unknown author about Peace – it read:

 

PEACE: it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.

 

This little card became a good reminder and helped me stay a bit calmer through some difficult times. 

 

I want each of us to take a moment this morning to ask ourselves…

 

What are the things in life (the noise, trouble, the hard things) that are causing me to not have peace?

 

[Pause to reflect]

 

I can relate to Quaker Catherine Whitmire when she says, “peace is not a steady state, I find it, lose it, and then have to search for it again.”

 

Personally, when I seem to find or sense some “peace” in my life – it’s about then when I find myself caught in a traffic jam, having car problems, a sick child, that bill arrives, or I have an unexpected emergency. The reality is that life doesn’t stop and the things that take away our peace keep coming. And I find myself being sent back to searching for some peace among the storms of life.

 

Finding peace in our world or in our lives takes practice. Some would even say it is a discipline.  And when we practice peace, it often causes us to have to wrestle with our patience, empathy, acceptance, trust, discernment, obedience, and self-awareness. In my former Yearly Meeting, January was always Peace Month, but often as we began wrestling with what it takes to experience peace, many would simply get upset realizing how difficult it really is. We would joke that January was anything, but peaceful.     

 

Patience, empathy, acceptance, trust, discernment, obedience, and self-awareness are not easy things to practice and work on. No wonder peace is so hard to find in our world it takes some effort. 

 

It also means that we will need to admit that “Peace is not simply the absence of conflict” as many in our world believe and pursue – often to their detriment. Actually, conflict often helps us grow and teaches and helps us with our patience, empathy, trust, discernment, obedience, and self-awareness.  To reconcile with a person, we are in conflict with often starts with us looking inward at our own struggles with these vary things.

 

If you notice, God’s peace (especially what is described in scripture, and even more what is spoken of in the Christmas story) comes at often turbulent times. 

 

Take for example, the Christmas Story Nicole read about the Angel appearing to Mary. Just prior to the Angel’s announcement, Walter Wangrin Jr. gives us a glimpse of the need for Mary to seek peace amidst the chaos of her life.  The noise of her betrothal had intensified, she was in tears, and the last bit of so-called peace was going to be shattered by an announcement of divine proportions.

 

As a pastor, I have officiated my share of weddings and prepared many couples for that special day.  I have also been through the process with Sue (actually 25 years ago today we were in the midst of that process - as we get ready to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary in June of this coming year).

 

In our day and age, betrothal is still often very stressful – with all the planning, organizing, preparing…

 

There are in-law issues, family issues, relational issues.

There are new questions, new ideals, new family members to deal with.

 

Often the beauty of marriage is overshadowed by a lack of peace.

 

Just like in Mary’s story.  Mary needed some space – she needed some peace.

 

For those married here this morning – can you relate? Just take a moment to remember.

What was your engagement time like? Was all the stress worth it?

 

Maybe you are not married – and you can relate more to Mary’s aloneness.  Maybe the stress of life or the constant barrage of people leaves you feeling alone – needing space.

 

Where do you go in these times? Where do you search for the peace you have lost?

 

Walter Wangrin Jr. painted us a word picture in our story of how Mary was feeling. He said, “She felt so sad,” yet at the same time “happy,” “excited,” “not content,” but [actually] really scared.” 

 

I don’t know about you, but I can relate to this roller-coaster of emotions.  Life often leaves us feeling this way. And many times, all we can do is, like Mary, bow our heads or bury our heads in our arms, and weep.

 

We finally surrender to the stress – the lack of peace – the lack of balance – and we hit bottom.  And like I spoke about a few weeks ago – our lives begin to cry out for God to intervene. “Take this away.” “Fix my life or situation.” “Help me!”

 

In these moments we often have high expectations of God.  Maybe we see what God has done in someone else’s life or situation and expect it to be the same for us.

 

Though, God very seldom – if ever – creates a formula, a wrote method.  Scripture testifies to this fact. Instead, God uniquely answers the cry of our individual hearts.

 

I am sure Mary was not expecting a messenger of God showing up and then announcing something that would send her stress level and lack of peace through the roof!

 

It says that Mary was terrified. She was in shock and even doubted this message was for her.

 

I often hear this happening in other people’s lives. Actually, I have also personally experienced it.  When we think we are at our lowest, when we at the bottom and sacred, that is often when God is actually calling us.  When God is going to use us in powerful ways. We feel unworthy but God finds favor with us.  On our hands and knees, in our doubt, in our questioning, with all our mistakes and bad choices, in our defeatedness, in our sadness, when we are scared to death to find out what is around the next corner…that is when God says, “I want to birth something new inside you!

 

Like Mary – each of us are called to bear the Light of the world in our lives. As Quakers we know this and affirm it.  But Mary’s story reminds us again that we (ordinary people) can be pregnant with the Light of Christ!

 

Folks, this is a great privilege. To realize that we are pregnant with the Light of Christ is humbling.  To realize there is that of God inside each of us waiting to give birth to peace, hope, love, joy to help the noisy, troubled and hard world around us and in us, is simply beautiful.  

 

May we find time during this crazy, busy, Holiday Season, for a Selah moment. Remember to center down and acknowledge the Light being birthed within you.  It may be a light of reconciliation or a light of peace among your family, or it might simply calm your heart long enough to help you find some peace to get through the day.

 

As we enter our time of waiting worship this morning, may it offer you a time of peace.  Acknowledge the Light being birthed within you and see how you will share it with the world. 

 

Queries to Ponder:

What are the things in life (the noise, trouble, the hard things) that are causing me to not have peace? 

What may I need to reconcile to see peace in my life? 

What is God birthing inside of me this Christmas season that will help bring peace to my world? 

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12-1-19 - Blue Christmas Service

Blue Christmas: A Service of Remembrance and Hope

 Today’s service begins in silence and dimmed lights so all may participate in a time of reflection and centering down in preparation for this special worship.

Please refrain from talking as you enter.  

 

THE GATHERING OF THE MEETING

Beth: Welcome to this “Blue Christmas” service. We know that Christmas can be a painful time for some. It may be the first Christmas without a loved family member who has recently died; it may be a time that has always been difficult. The constant refrain on the radio and television, in shopping malls and public spaces, about the happiness of the season, about getting together with family and friends, reminds many people of what they have lost or have never had. The anguish of broken relationships, the insecurity of unemployment, the weariness of ill health, the pain of isolation - all these can make us feel very alone in the midst of the celebrating and spending. So we have set aside this special time to acknowledge our sadness and concern and acknowledge that we are not alone.  

 

Let us begin this morning with standing and singing the first two verses of “O come, O come, Emmanuel.”

Opening Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, O come, Emmanuel,
and ransom captive Israel,
that mourns in lonely exile here
until the Son of God appear.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

O come, thou Wisdom from on high,
who orderest all things mightily;
to us the path of knowledge show,
and teach us in her ways to go.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

Opening Prayer

Bob: Around us, O God, the singing can be heard: ‘Joy to the world…let heaven and nature sing.’ This is to be a season of hope to ease our minds, peace to soothe our hearts, love to warm our souls, and joy to come new each morning.

But there are many who do not feel this joy. Some might try, others have given up trying. ‘Where is this joy for us?’ they ask. The world has found joy but some feel as if it has passed them by. Our minds are not at ease…we feel too much doubt. Our hearts are not at peace…there is too much to do. Our souls are not warmed…the chill of death is too troubling. Where, O God, can joy be found? We ask this as we come before you in prayer, opening ourselves to the possibility that hope, peace, joy, and love might still come to us.

We pray for the lonely, that they might find comfort in another’s touch.
We pray for the downtrodden, that they might find relief from their burdens.
We pray for those wrestling with depression, that a light of calm might bring them peace.
We pray for those dealing with stress, that they might find the courage to let go.
We pray for the grief-stricken, that they might experience the newness of life that you bring.

May joy come to the world, O God, and may we grasp some of that. We do not pray for joy that is temporary or fleeting, but a joy that runs deep and sustains us even in moments of despair. We seek this joy in a season that can be less than joyful. May we experience Your love this morning in new ways as we in turn love each other. Amen.

Choir             “Love Can”

Offering/Offertory (Children dismissed for Children’s Church)

Scripture Reading: Matthew 11:28-30 

Bob: ‘Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.’

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, thou Rod of Jesse, free
thine own from Satan’s tyranny;
from depths of hell thy people save,
and give them victory over the grave.
Rejoice! Rejoice!

Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

Lighting of the Four Candles

First Candle

Beth: The first candle we light to remember those persons whom we have loved and lost. We pause to read their name, remembering their voice, their face, the memory that binds them to us in this season. We hold them before God, giving thanks for their lives in ours.

(The Leader will then read the names of those who have died within our meeting this past year and ask for people to speak out any names we have missed.)

Prayer: God, each of us takes our loved one by the hand and leads them to you, the God of love, Here we present them to you. Accept our love and thanksgiving as we entrust them to your loving care. We ask that you fill us with motivation and energy in the days ahead when we feel like giving up. Help us to find joy in the people, events and the beauty of nature which surrounds us. Thank you for the gift each of these people has been in our lives. Take our sad and aching hearts and comfort us. Comfort us, for we only feel hollowness and emptiness. God of sorrowing, draw near! Amen.

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, thou Dayspring, come and cheer
our spirits by thine advent here;
disperse the gloomy clouds of night,
and death’s dark shadows put to flight.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

Second Candle

Bob: The second candle we light is to redeem the pain of loss; the loss of relationships, the loss of jobs with the security they bring, the loss of health in ourselves or in family members, the loss of joy and peace in our lives from the stresses which surround us, the loss and loneliness we experience when our loved ones don’t understand us. As we gather up the pain of the past we offer it to you, O God, asking that into our open hands you will place the gift of peace.

Please take a moment to remember the losses. I invite you to name them, aloud or in the silence of your hearts….

Prayer:  God of mystery, we turn our hearts to you. We come before you in need of peace, grateful for the mystery of life and ever keenly aware of your promises of guidance and protection. We want to place our trust in you, but our hearts grow fearful and anxious. We forget so easily that you will be with us in all that we experience. Teach us to be patient with the transformation of our lives and to be open to the changes which we are now going through.   Amen.

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, thou Key of David, come,
and open wide our heavenly home;
make safe the way that leads on high,
and close the path to misery.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

 

Third Candle

Beth: The third candle we light for those who experience a loss of direction in their lives.

God of the Exodus, you led Moses and your people through the wilderness to a new land. We want so much to have a sense of direction, to know where we are and where we ought to be headed. But the darkness and the questions stay. You ask us to be full of faith, to believe deep within that you are our signpost, that you are our wisdom and our guide, and to trust in your presence. Your words to us are clear: “Do not fear, I go before you.” Let us reflect upon God’s direction in our lives in a moment of silence.

[Silent Reflection]

Prayer: God of our depths, we cry out to you to be our guide. Help us to have a strong sense of inner direction and grant that we may have the reassurance of knowing that we are on the right path. Take our lives and use them according to your will. Take all that is lost in us and bring it home with you. Amen.

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, O come, great Lord of might,
who to thy tribes on Sinai’s height
in ancient times once gave the law
in cloud and majesty and awe.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.

 

Fourth Candle

Bob: The fourth candle we light as a sign of hope, the hope that the Christmas story offers to us. We remember that God, who shares our life, promises us a place and time of no more pain and suffering. Let us reflect upon the hope that Christmas brings.

[Silent Reflection]

Prayer: O God whose spirit is known by those whose hearts are thankful, and who makes cheerfulness a companion of strength, lift up our hearts, we pray, to a joyous confidence in your care. Guide us when we cannot see the way. Teach us to know that a shadow is only a shadow, because the light of eternal goodness shines behind the object of our fears. Where there is love in life, teach us to find it; help us to trust it and enable us to grow in the power of love. So may our lives bring comfort and encouragement to others. Amen.

 

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, thou Root of Jesse’s tree,
an ensign of thy people be;
before thee rulers silent fall;
all peoples on thy mercy call.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel. 

Prayer for the Season

Beth: In the spirit of this Christmas season may the Light of Christ help us as we participate as special people coping with our many different losses. For our families and friends, that they may continue to help and support us. For any person we have loved who has died, for all the losses we know in our lives. For our family and friends, that you may bless them with love, peace, and joy. For peace throughout the world as proclaimed by the Christmas angels on that faraway hillside. For a greater understanding of the lessons of love and acceptance as modeled by Jesus. God of great compassion and love grant to all, especially the bereaved and troubled ones this Christmas, the blessing of true peace. Amen.

Lighting of Individual Candles

Bob: Each of us comes bearing our own hurts, sorrows, broken places. I want to invite each of you to offer your personal wound to God who loves each of us deeply and wants to carry our pain. God waits patiently, gently calling out: “Give me your pain, come to me… all who labor and are heavy laden, I will refresh you!”

Remember that these lights in their brightness are only symbols, but as they burn and finally go out, we remember that suffering passes, though memory remains forever.

I invite each of you to come forward and light a candle.  As you light the candle, remember that it is God who lights a candle in our darkness and holds us close until we are able to shine.

As you return to your seats, we will enter into our time of Waiting Worship in the Manner of Friends. Today, we ask that this time be kept silent and people not speak out of the silence to honor this time.  

Waiting Worship in the Manner of Friends

Greeting One Another

Hymn:  O come, O come, Emmanuel,*

O come, Desire of nations, bind
in one the hearts of all mankind;
bid thou our sad divisions cease,
and be thyself our King of Peace.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel

O come, O come, Emmanuel,
and ransom captive Israel,
that mourns in lonely exile here
until the Son of God appear.
Rejoice! Rejoice!
Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel

Benediction and Rise of the Meeting

 

* Note: The hymn “O come, O come, Emmanuel” is a song of people in darkness longing for God’s light.  It is not calling us to rejoice in the worldly form of the word, but calling our spirits and souls to reflect the true hope and joy that only God can give.

This service was adapted from the “Blue Christmas Service: When Christmas Hurts” developed by Heather Hill.

 

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11-24-19 - More Than a Meal

More than a Meal

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

November 24, 2019

 

Proverbs 9:1-6

Wisdom has built her house,
    she has hewn her seven pillars.
2 She has slaughtered her animals, she has mixed her wine,
    she has also set her table.
3 She has sent out her servant-girls, she calls
    from the highest places in the town,
4 “You that are simple, turn in here!”
    To those without sense she says,
5 “Come, eat of my bread
    and drink of the wine I have mixed.
6 Lay aside immaturity,[a] and live,
    and walk in the way of insight.”

 

The idea that there are no “rituals” among Friends is interesting and has always made me wonder just a little. I think you would agree that we have rituals, but we just may not label them as such.

The central ritual for the greater Christian world has always been the celebration of the Mass or what is more commonly called the Eucharist, The Lord’s Supper, or simply communion.  Yet, if you were to strip it of much of it’s religious ritual, at its core you would find that it was just a meal.

That is why, as Quakers we often talk of sharing in communion when eating together. We don’t need specific elements, like bread and wine to hold within them the presence of Christ. Because we know that Christ or God is already present, because as Quakers we believe that there is that of God or Christ in us and our neighbor.      

And from my personal observation, the principal ceremony to mark most Quaker events, let’s be honest, is a meal (we almost cannot have any function without food, and when we do have food more people usually show up) - from new attender dinners, to Seasoned Friend’s luncheons, to Threshing Together with the guys, to Pitch-ins, picnics, Vespers’ Lite Dinner, to some type of meal after every memorial or celebration of life…and the list could go on.  All of our events end up around a table(s) where Friends are gathered to share food (It literally keeps Dan Mitchel on his feet around this place putting up and taking down tables).

Let’s face it, the meal is an important ritual celebration among Friends whether we believe it or not, I believe that has something to do with giving thanks. 

I like what Nora Gallager says about rituals in her book “The Sacred Meal”:

“Rituals may seem to originate in magical thinking: we see the ancient practices of primitive people as methods to hold off or thank the gods, to ward off evil, to suck rain from the dry sky. But these are not to be dismissed as the inventions of ignorant people. Our ancestors were tough and creative; rituals were part of their lives. Knowing there were larger waves of power, meaning, and connection in the world than the ones they could see, they created ways to recognize and inhabit them. While we may condescend to a rain dance, the need to see beyond this world into another one is inherent in that dance; and the need to communicate our deepest desires is there as well. While it is true that we want signs of God’s presence that are written in human language, it’s the only language we have. And while any ritual can be reduced to magic, just about all of them contain an element of something that is deeply meaningful and human: the element of thanksgiving.”     

As I said before, most Christians today, will return to Jesus’ Seder meal with the disciples before he is crucified as the prime example of this type of ritualistic meal. Yet we must remember, Christians were notorious for repurposing things from other religions and making them their own. Christmas was a pagan holiday of the sun. Easter too was a pagan holiday celebrating Semiramis, and now the Jewish Seder, a meal about the redemption of Israel from Pharoh’s hands gets repurposed as the Last Supper of Christ which was to signal the redemption through his death. Actually, the church would later label this meal – the Eucharist – which in Greek actually means a meal of “thanksgiving.” A ritual to remember all that God had done for us. 

Actually, if you go all the way back into Proverbs, God, HERSELF, (a.k.a. Wisdom or the female personification of God) institutes this very type of thanksgiving meal. As we heard read in our scriptures, she calls out from her home to the people around her, “Come, eat of my bread and drink of the wine I have mixed.” She has slaughtered animals and set the table for a feast, and she has invited everyone to sit down and eat with her.  

It seems eating together has been part of who we are for quite some time. The very act of what can be called a Thanksgiving Meal was possibly even instituted by God, continued on by many religions (not just Christians), and practiced by Friends in a multitude of forms, and yes, even instituted by President Abraham Lincoln for the entire United States when he proclaimed a national day of "Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens," to be celebrated on the last Thursday in November.  Even Abraham Lincoln created a ritualistic meal to remind us and point us toward the abundance of God with gratitude for all she has done and provided.     

I have talked to many of you this week and heard your ritualist preparations for your meal of thanksgiving.  But maybe as Quakers, we should take a moment and remember that our thanksgiving meal is really no different than any other meal at its core. When we strip-away our family rituals and get down to the core of the meal – it’s about partaking in a moment of thanksgiving with the Christ or God present in those we have invited to sit around our table.

What if that is how we looked at the Thanksgiving meal and holiday – as an opportunity to commune with the God or Christ in our family, neighbors, friends?

I bet the political arguments, the inter-family quarrelling, and the uneasiness of getting together may look a little different if we put on those eyes and sought to see the good first. 

A few years ago, now, I was a part of a class that watched the movie Babett’s Feast. (How many of you have ever seen it?) It is a foreign film with English subtitles, but it is the message that makes all the difference.  Nora Gallager wrote a beautiful summary of the movie that I would like to share this morning.

The movie Babette’s Feast is the story of two sisters, living alone in a remote coastal village in northern Norway.  They are in their middle age, good women.  Their idea of a good meal is a piece of salted cod.  Their father, a pastor; has died; their church community dwindles and grows gossipy and backstabbing.

Enter into the scene, Babette, a French refuge. She offers to cook for them in exchange for room and board.

For fourteen years, Babette cooks salted cod, ale soup with bread, but with her own special touch.  Her only contact with France is a once-a-year splurge; she buys a lottery ticket by mail. 

One day a letter arrives for Babette. You guessed it. She’s won ten thousand francs, enough to pay her passage home and live on once she arrives. Babette askes her benefactors if she might cook them one last meal, a dinner for twelve at her expense. 

Cages of quail arrive from France: wines, cheeses, fresh eggs and butter and herbs. The sisters begin to panic: what to do with such extravagance? Such excess?

The day of the feast comes. Babette sets the table with fine linens and candles, crystal and china. And the guests arrive – most of them the bickering churchgoers, and there is also a French general, a former suitor of one of the sisters.  Middle aged and successful, he has put into his ambition all the energy and love he once felt for his beloved.

Their eyes widen as they begin to eat. For some, the sips of champagne are first in a lifetime. The general exclaims over the quail baked in a pastry shell, the wonderful cheeses.  He says, “Surely, this food is exactly like a meal I once had at Chez Angelique, a restaurant in Paris. Its chef was the only woman chef in all of France.”  As they eat and drink, their smiles begin.  For some, it is the first time they’ve eaten really good food in a whole lifetime of deprivation. Hesitantly, and then with more gusto, they begin to talk. One man opens a sore subject with another “You cheated me,” he says calmly. “Yes, I did,” replies the other. “Oh, well,” the first man responds. “I cheated you too.” And they shake hands. Two women who have gossiped rudely about each other throughout their lives smile warmly at each other and lift their glasses in a toast. And as the coffee and dessert are laid on the table, with more champagne, the general lifts his glass to the whole community.

“Mercy is infinite,” he says. “All that we need is given to us.” Then he adds, “And even what we have rejected in our lives,” he says, looking at the woman he loved long ago, “will, in the end be granted to us.”

At the end of the film, we discover that Babette, or course, was the chef at Chez Angelique, but the greater surprise is she is not leaving at all. Why not? Because a meal for twelve at Chez Angelique costs ten thousand francs. Babette had given them everything.  And this may be the final reason the dinner was so transforming: it was given with complete generosity, with nothing held back. Babette knew how to say thanks. 

Babette’s Feast is a story about the healing power of extravagance, of extravagant generosity, or extravagant love.

  This is the same feast that Wisdom (God) invited us all to when she said,

5 “Come, eat of my bread
    and drink of the wine I have mixed.
6 Lay aside immaturity,[a] and live,
    and walk in the way of insight.”

 I pray as we enter our Thanksgiving rituals, that we could take a moment and prepare ourselves.  That we could ask ourselves,

·        Am I looking for that of God in those around the Thanksgiving table?

·        Where do I need to “lay aside the immaturity and seek to walk in the way of insight” this Thanksgiving?

·        How am I being extravagantly generous and loving this Thanksgiving?

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11-17-19 - Selah (Part 3)

Life Selah (Part 3)

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

November 17, 2019

Matthew 11:29

Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

This has been a long week for many of us at First Friends. I know I have found myself on several occasions this week in this very Meeting Room sitting in silence, holding a variety people in the Light, crying out to God for healing, safety, and hope. I sought solace and peace while sitting in these pews. On occasion I would take time to gaze out our Quaker stained-glass windows at the beauty of nature, the dusting of snow, the falling leaves, all while the wintry winds blew outside the Meetinghouse. Their sound almost lulling me into a sense of quiet peace and pause amidst the difficulties that this week brought.

I have been trying hard to process and articulate all that I have been experiencing this week within our faith community. I finally decided that the best way of describing it is by calling it a Life Selah - an interruption to all that is normal which necessitates or demands a pause, that forces us to listen and look carefully at life, and reflect on our priorities and that which is truly important.

I am sure most of us have experienced at least one Life Selah at some point in our lives. It could have been losing a job, getting a divorce, receiving a difficult diagnosis, experiencing the death of a loved one. Whatever the event, it causes us to stop in our tracks, to realize the fragility of life, and center us again on what is important. I have been with several of you as you have gone through these experiences, and when my parents had their car accident a few years ago, many came along side of my family and me, because even though Life Selahs are very personal, often they become a communal experience.

Last Monday started out very normal, getting my wife and boys off to work and school, looking over my rather light schedule and being excited about getting

caught up as the craziness of the Christmas season is beginning to loom in the near distance. Yet upon arriving at the office, Monday, I received a couple of rather alarming texts from friends within the meeting. It wouldn’t be long before I would be jumping back in my car and heading to Riley Children’s Hospital where Naomi Wheeler’s 15-year-old son, Kian, was taken after being struck by a truck as he was biking to school that morning. In a matter of moments, I found myself and a variety of people in our community having a Life Selah.

I wish all my training, education, and pastoral experience could prepare me for these moments, but as I have learned on many occasions, it’s just not possible. No one is prepared for these moments. They grab our fast-paced busy lives and present us with a new reality on the spot – and often with little or no warning.

Quaker Thomas Kelly said it well when he said we live so much of our lives in “an intolerable scramble of panting feverishness.” That is, until we are thrown a Life Selah and it quickly all comes to a screeching halt.

Often in these difficult times, we need guidance and wisdom from others who have already traveled these difficult roads and have something to share. I know many people who have shared their experiences with Naomi because, I believe, we are connected by our experiences and stories.

As well, many of us turn to the scriptures in these times for the same reasons. We hope we can connect to the characters of scripture and learn from their experiences and stories as well. This is one of the reasons in difficult times, I turn to the book of Psalms. I relate to the Psalm writer, David who often cried out in frustration, in confusion, in seeking to understand life and what all God was up to. David (as is the case with many characters in Scripture) encountered Life Selahs – some unexpected and some of his own doing.

As I sat in the pews this week crying out, returning to David’s Psalms, pondering just what and how I was to pray. I again heard that still small voice. And much like the morning walk where I heard the world “Selah,” this time the word was simply “rest.” Ironically, it is a common theme in David’s psalms, here are just a couple of examples:

• My soul finds rest in God alone.

• Be at rest once more, O my soul,

for the Lord has been good to me.

Also, there are what are considered resting psalms such as Psalm 131 which one verse reads, “But I have calmed and quieted my soul.” And there are many Psalms which speak of restoring – which that word itself implies that to rest-ore something one will need first to include rest.

And then I was reminded of Jesus’ invitation to us all, which was the scripture Erin read,

“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Much like Selah a couple weeks ago, rest I sensed was one of the best answers to these interruptions of life. Even though in the midst of chaos, disruption, or unexpected change, we, too often, turn to worry or want to quickly find a way to take control or fix the situation. Sadly, Life Selahs don’t always afford quick solutions or take overs. They are complicated, they need time, and they often require clear thinking.

When we take a Selah and stop and allow ourselves to rest from the chaos and confusion swirling around us, we often are more able to find a sense of stability or even serenity. The rest clears our minds and helps us find focus and attentiveness to what God is doing in our midst. We may even see new possibilities, new opportunities which did not seem available in the moment, or renewed hope.

Madame Guyon said that in the midst of these interruptions we should,

“Rest. Rest. Rest in God’s love. The only work you are required now to do is

to give your most intense attention to His still, small voice within.”

It was interesting how often this week I heard the word rest in the midst of all that was going on. Whether it was the doctors saying they were going to sedate Kian so he could rest and allow his brain to heal and come back to center, or the family members being encouraged to rest, so the shock of the accident could wear off and they could be clear and attentive to Kian’s needs. Even taking time to rest in the presence of friends and loved ones – because sometimes presence is more important than words in these moments.

Folks, it is clear that we all have limits and that there is a finiteness to our time and energy – especially in the midst of difficult situations or Life Selahs. I believe, we were created this way. And I believe needing to rest is a God-like quality. If we acknowledge that of God within us, then we must also acknowledge the God who has taught us both to work and rest. It was God who instilled the need for Sabbath rest in the hearts of the Hebrew people and led by example by taking a rest at the end of creation. Jesus continued this practice, often in the midst of some rather difficult times, by going off and resting and allowing him to center and reconnect to God’s will. What I have learned in my studies is that rest is both a physical need and spiritual act. Similar to what I said last week, rest is another act of surrender to the dependence on God. And as Quakers it is also a centering-quality. That when we willingly take time to rest – we connect more fully with our inner light or the God or Christ within us and then also with the God or Christ within our neighbor. Rest is restorative to our own soul and the soul of our community.

Just maybe the best thing we could do, that may change our world for the better is find more time for rest.

It is something an old friend of Sue and mine, Brenda Jank, has dedicated her life to and is very passionate about. Brenda founded an organization called, “Run Hard. Rest Well.” which is completely dedicated to advocating for the vital importance of rest. Their mission is to champion rest because they believe it has the ability to change culture and counteract the destructive nature of overload. I love that. It makes me wonder, how we can “champion rest” at First Friends? It seems to me to be a radical counter-cultural idea for Quakers like us.

And one last thing I want to emphasize, I don’t want someone to walk away from this morning thinking, Pastor Bob thinks we all need to take a nap or get more sleep (that may be a priority and needed for many of us), but for some people taking time to read a book, listen to music, do some type of craft or art, yoga, spend time watching a movie, laughing with a friend, experiencing nature or a sunset, even taking a drive, riding a bike, or for some (not me), running, and the list goes on…all are ways we can rest our souls and re-center ourselves during Life Selahs.

Let’s now take a rest this morning as we enter waiting worship. Allow yourself to rest this morning, feel the presence of this place and the people within, and take time to center in on the connection with your Inner Light or the Christ or God within you and your neighbor. Let us take this time.

• When have I experienced a Life Selah? How did I respond?

• How might I develop a better discipline of rest in my life?

• How might we encourage opportunities for rest at First Friends?

 

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11-10-19 - Selah (Part 2)

Selah (Part 2)

Indianapolis First Friends

Pastor Bob Henry

November 10, 2019

 

Habakkuk 2:20

But the Lord is in his holy temple;
    let all the earth keep silence before him!

Back when I was an Anglican Priest serving at the Cathedral in Rochester Hills, MI, my bishop would enter for morning prayers, raise his hands to the heavens, and say those words, which David read for our scripture passage this morning.

The Lord is in his holy temple; let all the earth keep silence before him!

After those words we entered a time of silence and pause. It slowed our pace, it made us look around our sanctuary with reverence and awe, and even began to center us into the silence of worship.

Yet, I remember one day, sitting in the Cathedral sanctuary and hearing those words, and being stopped in my tracks. I had been preparing for a sermon on 1 Corinthians 6:19 which reads… 

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?”  

I wondered to myself, how I had missed this. The Lord is in his holy temple – that holy temple is me and my sisters and brothers surrounding me, and not the cathedral I was sitting in for prayers. This is one of the great spiritual migrations within Scripture and for us as Quakers – a migration from the brick and mortar temples to the bodily temples of flesh and blood. Thus, I realized a Quaker truth that our physical bodies or temples must become silent so that the God within us may be heard and experienced. 

This morning I want to spend some time sharing some thoughts, but also inserting a couple of Selahs (as we talked about last week) for pause, silent reflection, and listening.

To begin, we often talk about the center of our temples being the heart. This comes from our Jewish roots. The Hebrew people believed that the heart was the center or core of our being because it was where the breath of God co-mingled with our blood, entering our bodies to give us life.

I have heard people say that it is our heart which yearns for God, when in reality it is our heart, or the core of our being, that is our most precious and powerful connection to God. As Quakers we would call this “connecting to our Inner Light or the Christ or God within.”

Yet, let’s be honest, there are so many distractions in our world that get in the way of us attaining the proper posture to make this heart connection.

Last week our scripture spoke of how this heart connection may be made. Psalm 46 read, “Be Still and Know that I Am God.” A simple phrase we often overlook or assume we understand.

Being still, is not so easy in our fast-paced world. Even when we slow down and silence our lives, our minds continue to work, and our lives continue to distract us from making this connection. A couple of years ago, Sue told me how doctors said that we should not be looking at our smart phones before we go to bed, because our brains are so stimulated that they cannot fully become still and rest – so as we sleep technology keeps are minds working. And technology is only one of the distractors we face in our world that keep us from stillness.

For you and me, being still, finding time for a Selah-pause, and entering silence can be hard, but in reality, it should be a welcomed process. This means it will take some set-apart time, practice, discipline, committed dedication and the removal of distractions for us to make a deeper heart connection. 

J. Krishnamurti in his book, Freedom from the Known said it this way…

If one wants to see a thing very clearly, one’s mind must be very quiet, without all the prejudices, the chattering, the dialogue, the images, the pictures–all that must be put aside to look. And it is only in silence that you can observe the beginning of thought–not when you are searching, asking questions, waiting for a reply. So, it is only when you are completely quiet, right through your being…then you will begin to see out of that silence how thought takes shape…

With that thought, let us take a Selah and quiet ourselves this morning to begin to make that heart connection with our Inner Light or the Christ or God within.

Selah [Pause]

As we continue, let us think about the concept of surrender.

As the quote indicated, quieting our minds, our prejudices, the chatterings, the dialogue, the images that we are bombarded with at every minute will take personal surrender. 

As Quakers we believe we are all created equal, but we must realize we all do not access our Inner Light or the Christ or God within in the same way. Some of us have a much more difficult time surrendering to the distractions than others. Surrender to some is weakness or giving up, and even others cannot surrender because they feel gripped by fear or pain.    

Yet, when we are willing and able to enter this place of surrender to that of God within us, we are able to experience a sense of personal forgiveness and true love in an intimate and personal way.

It becomes a force that surges through our bodies and minds - a power that lifts us beyond ourselves in ways previously unimagined. George Fox and the Early Quakers called this “The Power of the Lord.” Scott Martin in Friends Journal wrote, 

“The Power of the Lord” had multiple meanings for Fox and other early Friends, but the most common use of the phrase was to refer to a sensible, divine power or energy. Friends would experience this power surrounding them or flowing through their bodies under a variety of conditions, but most often at the point of convincement, when facing a trial, or during meeting for worship. An experience of the power was often associated with some kind of involuntary physical or mental phenomenon. When seized by the power, some Friends quaked, vocalized, or fell unconscious to the floor, while other Friends saw brilliant light, had visions, experienced healing, or felt a force emanating from them that was capable of subduing an angry and hostile mob…

 

Isaac Pennington’s advice to the seekers of the 17th century applies equally to the seekers among us today: Oh, sit, sit daily and sink down to the seed and “wait for the risings of the power … that thou mayst feel inward healing.”

 

When we surrender the distractions and make a connection to our inner light or the Christ or God within, we too may experience “The Power of God.” Something, our world and Quakerism so desperately needs. I sense the “power rising” at First Friends. People among us are speaking up, are experiencing physical, spiritual, and emotional healing, are having visions and taking action to help change our world.  

 

Again, let us take a Selah to quiet ourselves, to seek connection, and ask for “The Power of the Lord” to rise within and among us here this morning.

 

Selah [Pause]

Finally, Richard Rohr says:

The Good News is that it’s not about being correct. It’s about being connected. When the Spirit within you connects with God’s Spirit … you are finally home. Now you know that your deepest you is God, and Christ is living his life in you and through you and with you.

 

Once we have experienced that connection and power that longs, rises, and, and responds outwardly through acts of beauty, Truth, goodness, and healing, we release ourselves from much of what occupies our daily life, our ways of relating, what we talk about, who we talk about, and what usually directs our actions. You and I are not only being guided by our inner light or Christ or God within, but we should also be recognizing and realizing that of God in each person we meet. Once we realize and acknowledge that of God in ourselves – we cannot dismiss that of God in our neighbor – no matter their gender, orientation, race, status, culture, or religious experience.

As we Quakers make our own heart connections, a natural response should rise up inside of us to seek and begin to see that of God in those around us. People we can practice a better way of living with.  A way rooted in the connecting love of God. A way that seeks to trust each other, to build each other up, to encourage and support each other, and learn to live in ways we cannot currently imagine. This is what I consider living the Quaker Way rooted in love.   

Laura Madson imagined it this way.

“A Light begins to grow within us that reveals Life in a way we couldn’t see before. A boldness emerges within us that we are held by. We know experientially, simply, and humbly, that Life is very sweet and precious. That all that we seek individually in our busy separate lives finds its rest by finding its place within the recognition of our Unity.”

May this morning our heart connections, find “The Power of the Lord,” and unite us together in this Quaker Way rooted in love.

As we enter our final Selah this morning, let us consider this our waiting worship in the manner of Friends. Take a moment to pause and reflect on what has been said, seek to make the heart connection, and consider the queries for this morning.

  • Why is it difficult for me to get completely quiet? What are my distractions?

  • When I finally become silent, do I sense the presence of God?

  • What connections in the silence bring life to me?

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11-03-19 - Selah

Selah

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

November 3, 2019

Psalm 46 (NRSV)  Pew Bible: p. 450

1 God is our refuge and strength,
    a very present help in trouble.
2 Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change,
    though the mountains shake in the heart of the sea;
3 though its waters roar and foam,
    though the mountains tremble with its tumult.Selah

4 There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
    the holy habitation of the Most High.
5 God is in the midst of the city; it shall not be moved;
    God will help it when the morning dawns.
6 The nations are in an uproar, the kingdoms totter;
    he utters his voice, the earth melts.
7 The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our refuge.  Selah

8 Come, behold the works of the Lord;
    see what desolations he has brought on the earth.
9 He makes wars cease to the end of the earth;
    he breaks the bow, and shatters the spear;
    he burns the shields with fire.
10 “Be still, and know that I am God!
    I am exalted among the nations,
    I am exalted in the earth.”
11 The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our refuge.  Selah

 

 

Probably because of all the photos I post of the beautiful sunrises on social media, many of you know that each day after I get Sue and the boys off to work and the bus, I take my morning walk. It has become a sacred and centering time for me. The cool air and vigorous walk clear my brain and allow me the needed time to reconnect with nature, my neighbors, and the Creator God I thank for it all. 

Often as I walk, I find myself giving thanks for my family, my life, and this Meeting that I not only consider my faith community, but that I have the honor and privilege of serving each and every day. I also often remember those suffering from illnesses or suffering with mental, emotional, or physical pain, and I take a moment to lift their names to the rising of a new day filled with hope.

One day this week as I was walking, I had a moment of divine clarity and direction. Like George Fox before me, I felt God was speaking to my condition and even the condition of our Meeting.  What came to mind was not a long message, detailed directions, or even a vision – rather it was simply one word: SELAH

Now, before I explain that word, I want to give some context. When I started our current sermon series, It’s Time to Get Moving: Quakerism for Today back in September, I knew God had stirred me to wrestle with some heavy topics and craft a set of teaching sermons to address the brokenness of Quakerism and the needed direction for its successful future.  I knew the series would speak to more than just First Friends – and it has – as I have received messaged from other states and even countries.

Please understand, after two years of conversations and integrating our family into this Meeting, I have learned a great deal (by no means everything) of the great diversity on so many levels here at First Friends. I deeply value that diversity and what it offers us as a body. Just facilitating the conversations in Seeking Friends each week has been a clear eye-opener to the spectrum of beliefs that this place holds. Many in that class can attest to the beauty of our differences and the importance of learning from each another.  As well, attending Yearly Meeting events over the last couple of years have also at times been eye-openers and often left me wondering where First Friends fits in and our place in the future of our Yearly Meeting. These are just a couple of the reasons why I was (and continue to be) hopeful that these sermons could help us transcend our beliefs, and institutional structures, and find a way here at First Friends to “get moving” and keep the vigor and excitement around this place fresh, challenging, and growing. 

One thing I have learned in my 25 years in ministry is that sermons can be conversations starters, as well as, fire starters. It is typical with any diverse group, that some sermons and conversations will take time to process. Let’s admit it, some are hard and need time to percolate and brew in our hearts and among us.  It is very similar to Quaker Business or Waiting Worship when we need time to pause and reflect on what we have just heard, so the words can settle into our hearts - the very reason we often sit in silence for a time before someone else speaks.

I believe it has been extremely clear when talking with many you throughout the week that First Friends has a hunger for deeper conversations, for deeper thinking, and even deeper relationships among us and within our community. But as I have shared openly from my own journey, this deeper path often takes time.

During the current sermon series, I have used the analogy of migration and making a needed move in our thinking or beliefs – but even migration takes seasons - geese flying south don’t arrive in a day as we would flying in a plane.   

Thus we need time to chew, time to reflect, and time to query about our own responses and beliefs.    

That being said, I am also very pleased to see the actions and conversations that have already begun during this time. I have been humbled to be part of so many conversations of healing that have taken place as we have grappled with difficult church history, our understanding of God and faith, and finding the Quaker Way rooted in Love.

I am moved by the desire of many in our meeting to actually do something tangible like address the safety of 5G networks, or start a discussion on how we can make a difference with payday lending in our own Glendale neighborhood or seek ways to use our property to preserve our ecological priorities and continue to teach our testimonies.  These are just a few of the many conversations and actions that have begun in the recent months.

Now, let me return to Selah.  The word Selah is used 74 times in the Bible in only two books – Psalms and Habakkuk.  It is a mysterious word that has no specific meaning. It often appears in more lyrical or poetic verse, because many believe it was a liturgical or musical mark.  Scholars consider it an instruction for the musician or reader to stop and listen or take a needed pause to reflect on what happened just before or the words prior to the pause.

To receive this word as I walked the other morning was not alarming, but more affirmation that we have been doing really hard work.  We have been wrestling with difficult, but important things, and our cups are full and overflowing…and this includes my own.

So, this morning, I am declaring Selah on this sermon series.  It is time to stop and listen, it is time to take a needed pause to reflect. 

Please note: that does not mean that the final 5 sermons are being scrapped or I am going in a different direction. We will return and finish them in a new season after the holidays – after taking our Selah. 

For those in the meeting that are ready for more, or those online waiting for the next sermon to drop, I am simply asking you to pause, listen, and reflect. For those who attend or listen occasionally, maybe take some time during November to go back and listen to the sermons you missed. They were meant to build on each other while laying a foundation for us as a thriving progressive Quaker community. Folks, First Friends is a unique and special place. I believe (as many of you do) that we are the face of a new kind of Quakerism that can take us into the future with hope and stability. Also, if you return to the messages or reflect back over the last couple months, take some time to reflect on your own responses to these messages, what stirred your passions, what rubbed you the wrong way, and why?, what response did they inspire?  And then find sometime to have a conversation with someone (maybe someone different than you at our meeting) or make a coffee date or lunch with me or Beth to discuss what is being stirred up in your heart.  As I said when speaking at FUM’s Stoking the Fire this summer, “Having conversations are vital to the survival and growth of Friends. When we stop having conversations and assume we have it all figured out then we begin to die.”     

So, let us enter our Selah today – take time to reflect, listen, and pause and see how God has been and continues to speak to you and us as a community.

Queries to Ponder:

  • Where do I need to stop an listen or take a needed pause in my life?

  • What is being stirred in my heart?

  • What is rubbing me the wrong way? And why?

  • In what way am I being led to respond?

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10-20-19 - God for Us All

God for Us All

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

October 20, 2019

 

Philippians 2:1-11

 

Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

 

5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

6 Who, being in very nature God,
    did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
    by taking the very nature of a servant,
    being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself
    by becoming obedient to death—
        even death on a cross!

 

9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
    and gave him the name that is above every name,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
    in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,
    to the glory of God the Father.

 

 

Since this morning we are going to be talking about God, I thought as good Quakers we should start by going to the authorities on God – children.  If you thought you had some questions about God, just listen to some of the questions that children out there have.  They will get you thinking (and possibly laughing). These are actual questions children have asked which I found on a parenting blog titled, “CafeMom.”

  1. "Why did God make mosquitoes? All they do is bite you? Why would God do that?!"

  2. "Why does God stay in heaven and not come down to earth to visit?"

  3. "I think my 4-year-old son got confused when we told him that God watches over us. He said 'Wait, so God is Santa Claus?'"

  4. "Did Jesus get potty trained as fast as me?"

  5. "How did Jesus even rise from the grave? Did he punch out of his grave and say, 'This isn’t the last of Jesus!'?"

  6. "Is Jesus a zombie?"

  7. "Can God read our minds?"

  8. "Is Santa God's really rich brother?'

  9. "'Mommy, is that God?' referring to the priest marrying my sister-in-law and her husband."

  10. "When my son was about 4 or 5, and it started to rain while we were walking back from the park, he asked me if it was God peeing on us."

  11. "If God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone... how come He never made himself a wife?"

  12. "If God sees everything, does he watch us in the shower?"

  13. "I teach preschool Sunday school and ... I talked about Jesus as the Good Shepherd and how He will leave 99 sheep to find one lost one. One little boy piped up, 'Did Jesus live in a zoo?'"

  14. "Why does he have horns? Does he headbutt the other gods?"

  15. "So, was he a vampire?"

  16. "When my oldest was about 3, we found a baby bird in the yard that had fallen from its nest. When I went to check on it the next morning, it had died. When I took the kids out to play, I discreetly scooped him up, put him in a bag and in the trash. When we came in, my son said, 'Mama, what happened to that baby bird?' Trying to skirt the issue, I said, 'Oh, you don't have to worry about that baby bird, he lives with Jesus now.' He looked at me thoughtfully for a few moments and said, 'Jesus lives in the trash?'"

  17. "Did Jesus practice walking on water first? How can I do it?"

  18. "If Jesus doesn't have a sister, why do I need to have one?"

This morning, I would like us to explore what we know and believe about God. And just like those kids, it is always acceptable among Friends – and especially here at First Friends to ask questions. So, allow yourself to be open and inquisitive this morning.

Much of what I talked about last week, as hard as it was to wrestle with and try and understand, reflects too well what many people believe about God.

Countless people have a picture of God that is violent, domineering, controlling, and supreme in many of the wrong ways. This concept and understanding of God often comes from what traditionally theologians call “omni-theology.”  Now, many of us in this very meetinghouse were probably raised with omni-theology where we used these descriptors to explain God

omnipresent – God is everywhere.

omniscient – God is all knowing.

omnipotent – God is all mighty or the supreme being. 

 

Yet, while I was being taught this omni-theology in my conformation class at the age of 13 a fellow classmate raised his hand and asked a poignant question,

 

If God is all powerful, can He create a rock so large He cannot pick it up?

 

and the questions continued to grow. Sadly, the bible didn’t help me on this one…because if you look carefully you will find verses and stories in the bible that refute every one of those attributes.  As well, the bible is filled with paradoxes that get one’s mind spinning in thought.  I remember a time when my mind went spinning and this is what it kind of sounded like…

 

Either God wants to abolish evil and cannot,

or he can, but does not want to,

or he cannot and does not want to.

 

If he wants to, but cannot, he is impotent.

If he can, but does not want to, then he is wicked.

If he neither can, nor wants to, he is both powerless and wicked.

 

Like I said, all this can very quickly have our heads spinning.  If you enjoy this type of thinking…I have an opportunity for you…it’s called seminary…there is a lot of head spinning that goes on there. Just ask Beth Henricks about that with her current class on postmodernity in her Master of Divinity program at Earlham School of Religion.

 

Anyway, as soon as the questions were adequately satisfied (which they never were) my confirmation teacher (who was also my pastor) would quickly move to another statement about God, which went like this,

 

“To really see who God is, we must look at Jesus.”

 

Now, Jesus was much more relatable. Jesus was much more tangible. Jesus was much more human and did things that humans, like me, did.  And yet, Jesus wasn’t really much like this “God” we were just discussing.  Rather confusing if you really think about.  So many other theologies and explanations had to be created to make it all work and make sense, that often we just went with it. Since most of the confirmands just wanted to get through the class so they could take communion and say they drank wine at church. We often moved on, leaving me with lots of questions. 

 

Actually, looking at Jesus was probably the best suggestion or move we could make (back then and today), because the God we would see in Jesus is much different – instead of lightning bolts or wrathful threats the God of Jesus took up a water basin and a towel and declared forgiveness, brought reconciliation, proclaimed good news for all, and had compassion for people who did not know the way of shalom and love.       

 

In the biblical chapter of my doctoral dissertation I traced the concept of shalom (which means to bring into peaceful wholeness) from Genesis to Revelation and found often in both the Old and New Testaments a God who was seeking first and foremost this way of shalom rooted in love. Too often scripture shows this shalom-seeking God being overshadowed by the actions, beliefs, or desires of the God-followers – leaving God waiting patiently on them to seek the way of shalom and love for themselves. (To me, this “waiting patiently” definitely shows that God must be a Quaker).

 

Finally, when Jesus appears on Earth or as it says in The Message, “when he moved into the neighborhood,” he was able to show them tangibly a new way.  Yet many still refused to follow His way, always adding more and more to convolute and detract from his simplicity. Ironically, this was exactly what Jesus was always questioning the religious authorities of his day about – they loved adding rules and hoops to jump through.  Yet, Jesus was trying to get them back to the essentials of shalom and love, all while they believed they had better ideas. Ideas that would lead to many of the atrocities we talked about last week.  

 

Also, for Jesus, God was supreme, but not in a supremacy as-we-know-it-today kind of way – Instead Jesus always was trying to show God as the supreme healer, supreme friend, supreme lover, supreme life-giver…so much so that God would ultimately empty himself for the benefit of ALL people.  Listen again to how Paul explained it to the Philippians:

 

6 Who, being in very nature God,
    did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
    by taking the very nature of a servant,
    being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
    he humbled himself
    by becoming obedient to death—
        even death on a cross!

 

What Jesus did was give us a brand new and radical understanding of God. He flipped our understanding completely upside down. The domineering, wrathful, violent God had now become just the opposite – nondominating, nonwrathful, nonviolent, and supreme in self-giving and service.

 

Let’s be honest, this God that Jesus was trying to show us, I believe, makes much more sense, because first and foremost we hopefully want to relate to this image of God.

 

Actually, as Quakers who believe that there is that of God in every person, this means even more. It means that we not only can relate, but we should be emulating, or even better yet, incarnating this God that Jesus is showing us in our everyday lives. 

 

We should be working hard on becoming nondominating, nonwrathful, nonviolent people who seek ways to be supreme in self-giving and service to ALL people.  Then our neighbors will be able to see “that of God in us.”

 

Now, before we embark on emulating and incarnating this way, we probably need to do some self-work. That means we are going to have to ask ourselves some difficult queries to help us process where we are struggling with living this way, currently.

 

We should ask ourselves something like this…

 

·        Who deep down do I want to dominate?  Who do I want to exercise control over? Who don’t I mind belittling, shaming, or making feel less-than for my own benefit or desires?

 

·        Who experiences my fierce anger the easiest? Do they deserve it? Have I tried to understand him/her, and have I taken the time to look inside myself at the root of my own wrath?  (If wrath is truly at its deepest root a corollary of love – let’s seek to tap into the love instead of producing angry responses.)

 

·        Who undeservedly receives my violent responses, or who do I wish them upon?  How often have I wished someone removed from my life (even dead), or wanted to physically hurt someone to make myself feel better? (I used to think this sounded out there, but violence today takes many forms.  – bullying or emotional violence or intimidation is a violent act that is often used by youth on the internet, as well as people in Fortune 500 companies. I don’t know how many times, I have heard people say, “Well, if we could just get rid of that person (or those people) our problems would be solved.” Do we really mean that?  All you have to do is a take a look at a list of the things that cause PTSD in people and you will see how varied violent responses really are and the effects they have on each of us.)        

 

Just by asking ourselves those three queries we are quick to realize how important it is to work on becoming less dominate, less wrathful, and less violent. As we do, it is easier to see how we might be able to give, serve, and ultimately begin to seek shalom and love our neighbor as ourselves.

 

Instead of emulating the old view of God which produces many of the things we talked about last week, if we emulate the God we see in Jesus then we might just begin to heal our world starting in our own areas of influence (family, work, relationships, church, etc.) I will be the first to admit, it is never easy being humbled.  It isn’t easy trying to focus on putting others before ourselves. And often the last thing we want to do is willingly sacrifice our own desires to see others healed, reconciled, and successful in their pursuits. But when we do, others will be able to see that of a hopeful, loving, gracious, and kind God inside each of us.

 

That there is the way of Jesus rooted in love that we have been talking about throughout this series.

 

During our time of waiting worship, I challenge us to sit on those queries I read earlier, which can be found on the back of your bulletin.

 

·        Who deep down do I want to dominate?

·        Who experiences my fierce anger the easiest?

·        Who undeservedly receives my violent responses, or who do I wish them upon? 

 

And allow your Inner Light to speak to your condition this morning.  If you feel led to share out of the silence, please stand and a microphone will be brought to you.

  

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10-13-19 - Eyes Wide Open: Awakening to the Atrocities

Eyes Wide Open: Awakening to the Atrocities

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

October 13, 2019

 

1 John 3:14-18 (NRSV)

4 We know that we have passed from death to life because we love one another. Whoever does not love abides in death. 15 All who hate a brother or sister[e] are murderers, and you know that murderers do not have eternal life abiding in them. 16 We know love by this, that he laid down his life for us—and we ought to lay down our lives for one another. 17 How does God’s love abide in anyone who has the world’s goods and sees a brother or sister[f] in need and yet refuses help?

18 Little children, let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action.

 

 

I want to begin this morning by asking a question. Have you ever had your eyes opened to a new way of thinking, a new perspective, a new reality? 

 

Now, I know most of us have had that “aha” moment, where things clicked into place and we found clarity, but what I am talking about this morning is a little different than that.  I am talking about a moment when you thought you knew what was going on, you were comfortable and content, and then, all of a sudden you were not, something was stirred up that didn’t settle. Maybe you even had some doubts, questions, or simply needed to go on a discovery.    

 

As I have been prepping for this sermon, I have realized that, for me, many of these moments have come while reading books.  Actually, one of the earliest memories of having my eyes opened, was late in high school when a teacher challenged me to read J. D. Salinger’s The Catcher in the Rye.  How many of you have read that book?

 

The main character Holden Caulfield a troubled teen facing psychological troubles and expelled from high school at the age of 16 was just the opposite of everything I was and stood for in high school. It opened my eyes to seeing the pain and struggle of others my age different than me. Today, Catcher in the Rye is one of the most well-known banned books. I am glad it wasn’t banned when I was growing up, because it helped me see from a different perspective.    

 

 

This all had me thinking as I sat in my office this week and perused the books on my shelves. Soon, I had a stack of books on my desk that I consider to have opened my eyes, that have changed my perspectives, that have given me a new reality. Some caused me some anguish and I really had to wrestle with them, even put them down or throw across the room - only to pick up later (probably because I wasn’t ready for what they had to say at the time).  Once I read them though, I walked away asking different questions about everything from the church, the world, relationships, and yes, even God. 

 

The first book I pulled off my shelf just happened to be by Quaker Richard Foster.  Foster’s book, Streams of Living Water, had me wrestling with the idea that all the different Christian traditions have something to offer to one’s overall faith experience. For the first time, I realized that I might have missed out by not exploring traditions other than the one I had grown up with. Later on, I would be introduced to another book “A Generous Orthodoxy” by Brian McLaren that would expand these thoughts even further and help me see value in faiths outside the Christian traditions.

 

Another book I pulled off my shelf, was one I was given over a lunch with a colleague at Huntington University. Unbeknownst to me, this book would have me searching inwardly for answers about violence and how I might respond.  The book’s title alone, If a violent person threaten to harm a loved one…What Would You Do? by John Yoder drew me in. For the first time, I was challenged by the idea of pacifism and non-violent responses as a valid and even biblical way.  Hard to grasp for someone raised to accept capital punishment, just war, and domination of one’s enemies.

 

The next book I pulled off my shelf, was a suggestion from my friend, Jesse (who you may remember from our Labor of Love celebration a couple years ago).  He had mentioned this intriguing title, Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? And other Conversations on Race by psychologist Beverly Daniel Tatum. Until reading that book, I didn’t realize the impact of racism all around me, and how much personal work needed to take place.    

 

In October of 2006, I remember being glued to the TV as news of a horrific shooting of 10 schoolgirls took place in a surprisingly shocking place, Nickel Mines, Pennsylvania in the heart of Amish country.  Within that year I was reading the book, Amish Grace, written by three professors of historic peace universities.  The book disrupted my understanding of grace and forgiveness. It sat me down and made me take another look.  For the first time, I wasn’t sure how forgiveness could transcend tragedy, or if I wanted it to, even though the Amish had showed the way. That book ended up on the pile.

 

Out of this struggle on forgiveness and grace, I happened upon a book, If Grace Is True by a Quaker guy that many of us know named Phil Gulley.  Many of you have read this book, and it changed your life, or at least it opened your eyes wider to wrestle with universal grace for all.  Not easy for someone who was taught that their faith tradition was the true faith and most, if not all others, were wrong and that hell and fear tactics were ways to keep people safe and in-line.    

 

All of a sudden, my office desk was completely covered with books. Here are just a few other titles that opened my eyes wider…

 

·        Velvet Elvis: Repainting the Christian Faith by Rob Bell (this was one of the books I threw across the room and put down several times before realizing the wealth of wisdom inside).

·        A Year of Biblical Womanhood by Rachel Held Evans challenged the way I saw the role of women in the Bible.

·        Chasing Francis: A Pilgrims Tale by Ian Morgan Cron had me seeing the challenges of a pastor who began seeing things differently and the toll it would take on him.

 

I could go on and on with book after book…but for this sermon I would like to focus in on one book that really opened my eyes wide.  That book was Dee Brown’s Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee.  No book, at that point in my life, had opened my eyes as wide. Actually, I related to what Hampton Sides wrote in the new forward to the book.  He said,  

 

“It was as if someone threw a switch….it was as though Bury My Heart had caused Americans to rethink everything, to reset the moral compass, to start over again.” 

 

That described my experience well.  I will never forget being on vacation in Friendship, Wisconsin with our young family.  The cabin we were staying in had no T.V. or internet (actually we didn’t even own smart phones, yet).  Sue and I had put our young boys to bed and settled for the night in a couple of comfy chairs with the books that we had brought with us. I had become accustomed to bringing a book to read on vacation for several years, but I had no idea what I had gotten myself into with Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee.

 

Now remember, I grew up right here in Indiana. I visited Chief Little Turtle’s grave when I was in grade school. I learned of the Miami Indians that originally settled the territories that make up parts of Indiana and Ohio. I learned of the conquest, the struggle of the First Nations people, and even experienced the reservation system in Oklahoma while working in Texas, but what I was not ready for was the role Christianity and the Church played in the removal and genocide of the Indians from their land in America.  

 

Just as Dee Brown began chapter one, I want to take us back this morning to what opened my eyes so wide, and that starts with Christopher Columbus.  I find it ironic, that tomorrow, Monday, October 14 is a holiday in our country – for some it is Columbus Day and for a growing number of folks it is Indigenous People’s Day. Dee Brown introduced me to why a growing number of people are not so fond of celebrating Columbus’ discovery.

 

To understand Christopher Columbus’ mission a little better, we have to go back a few years and read the papal (the pope’s) proclamation of 1455 that empowered Christian kings of Europe to enslave, plunder, and slaughter in the name of discovery.  Here is how it reads,

 

invade, search out, capture, vanquish, and subdue all Saracens [Muslims] and pagans whatsoever, and other enemies of Christ wherever placed, and the kingdoms, dukedoms, principalities, dominions, possessions, and all movable and immovable goods whatsoever held and possessed by them and to reduce their persons to perpetual slavery, and to apply and appropriate to himself and his successors the kingdoms, dukedoms, counties, principalities, dominions, possessions, and goods, and to convert them to his and their use and profit.

 

This was the basis for what we commonly call the Doctrine of Discovery.  This papal proclamation is what created Christianity’s justification of colonialism.  

 

On a side note...take a moment to think about this…not only is it quite ironic that we have a steeple on our Meetinghouse when George Fox and early Quakers railed against such things, it is even more ironic that as Quakers we sit within a building which is considered “colonial” in style, with pews facing forward, and a pulpit – all symbols of the deep colonial influence on our recent past.  Something we may someday want to rethink about this space.    

 

Now, back to what I was saying…as I continued through the atrocities being exposed in Dee Brown’s book, I simply found myself in tears, sometimes in shock, and often wondering how people who had come to America for Religious Freedom, even called themselves Christian, could be so far from the way rooted in love which Christ taught and lived. 

 

What the early Christian settlers did on Native Land and to native people in the name of God made me sick.    

 

But then, I began to notice that history repeated itself. 

 

We don’t have to look hard to find what was named the Crusades in our history books. The Crusades were the papal proclamation in real-time. (My Christian grade school mascot all through from Kindergarten through 8th grade here in Indiana was a Crusader – on my school gymnasium wall was a picture of a knight in armor on a horse with a huge sword with a cross on it. And we didn’t see any harm in that image.).

 

At the same time the Native American Tragedies were happening in America, stories were being reported of Christian atrocities happening in the Caribbean, Central America, and South America as well. For that matter they would continue in America to only get worse for the First Nations tribes with the Trail of Tears, Abraham Lincoln’s Mass Execution of 39 indigenous people in 1862, the Sand Creek Massacre in Colorado, and then Wounded Knee.

 

And this supremacy in America didn’t stop there, the Christian Church would continue and be very involved with the African slave trade which was not only in America but throughout the world. Brian McLaren points out that Pope Urban VIII (8th) even realized the atrocities that were set in motion and reversed the proclamation declaring slavery unacceptable in the mid-17th century, but the majority of Protestant Christians in America and in other countries considered slavery and white supremacy to be absolutely consistent with “biblical” Christianity.

 

What reading Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee did for me, was open my eyes wide to the church’s involvement throughout history of removing people that did not fit the mold or would not conform or be “converted” to the form.  Where was the way of Jesus rooted in love?

 

I sat crying in the cabin in Friendship, Wisconsin because as I looked around me (and sadly as I look around me still today 10+ years later) I see the church falling utilizing those same power moves. We have just moved on to another people group…from the Samaritans back in Jesus’ day, to the Muslims and others that were obliterated during the crusades, to our own First Nations people, Africans Americans, the LGBTQ Community, the elderly, the mentally challenged, even Democrats (or Republicans), you name it today – anyone that this type of Christian wants to control, dominate, and force to conform are targets. 

 

Brian McLaren tells a story in “The Great Spiritual Migration” that really emphasizes what I am talking about, He introduces it by saying,

 

“Christianity, we might say, is driving around with a loaded gun in its glove compartment, and that loaded gun is its violent image of God. It’s driving around with a license to kill, and that license is the Bible, read uncritically.  Along with its loaded gun and license to kill, it’s driving around with a sense of entitlement derived from a set of beliefs with a long, ugly, and largely unacknowledged history.”

 

Then Brian tells the story.

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“All of this became disturbingly clear to me several months after September 11, 2001.  I was lecturing at a famous seminary in a famous city. As I walked from the subway to the school in the golden late-afternoon light, I noticed that the neighborhood around the school was populated primarily by Hindu and Muslim immigrants.  With images of 9/11 still in my memory, I couldn’t stop wondering if there was any neighborly interchange between the Christian seminarians inside the walls and the Muslim and Hindu mothers, fathers, kids, and grandparents I passed on the sidewalk outside. In my lecture that evening, the memory of their faces drew me off script, and I said to the seminarians and faculty present:

 

If I were a neighbor of this seminary, one of the Muslim or Hindu people who live their lives just outside your walls, there is one question I would have in my mind about you.  It is not the question of what your doctrines are. It is not the question of what your religious practices and rituals are.  I would only have one question.

 

Then, for a dramatic effect, I pulled out my wallet and from it extracted a credit card, which I raised above my head:

 

I would want to know if you at this seminary keep the genocide card in your theological wallet in your back pocket.  I would want to know if there are any circumstances under which you might, in God’s name and on the authority of the Bible that you are here to study, sanction the killing of my wife, my children, my parents, and me – as infidels, heathens, pagans, the unsaved, the unredeemed.

 

As you’d expect, a rather confused silence followed. I added:

 

In an age of religious violence like ours, people care much less about what you believe, and more about whether you will kill for what you believe.  So if you haven’t figured out what you’re going to do with passages like Deuteronomy 7 and 1 Samuel 15 and Paslams 137:9, you still have some important work to do. If you haven’t grappled with these passages and other like them, your Bible is like a loaded gun and your theology is like a license to kill.  You have to find a way to disarm your faith as a potential instrument of hate and convert it into an instrument of love. You have to convert Christianity from a warrior religion to a reconciling religion.  Otherwise, your neighbors around this seminary will tolerate you the way they might tolerate a chemical plant that could at any moment blow up and kill them all. 

There was a big crowd that night, with some students sitting on the floor.  Immediately, a student named Gavin near the front quite dramatically rose to his feet. He too pulled out his wallet and he too pulled out a card and waved it for dramatic effect. “I strongly disagree,” he said.  “If something is in the Word of God, then we must keep it in our pocket at all times, including passages that reveal God as violent. If the Bible reveals that God is violent, and if God commands us to do violence, it must be a just and holy violence, so I will defend it with my life.”  Some students nodded affirmatively as he sat down.  A few may have even clapped and said amen.  Others grew wide-eyed, as they had no idea what was going on, except that it wasn’t what usually went on at their seminary.

 

Bang. There it was. You can be a good Christian, at least in the minds of some seminarians at some highly regarded schools, and boldly uphold the right to kill people of other religions in the name of Jesus, because you can justify it with a chapter and verse in the Bible.

 

Although I think Gavin was dangerously wrong, I’m still grateful to him for speaking up. He did everyone present an important service that night.  His courage to say out loud what many people quietly think forced everyone in the room to give the relationship between Christianity, love, and violence a second thought.

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As Quakers, I think we need to ask ourselves, do we carry a “genocide card” in our pocket or a “loaded gun” in our glove compartment? Do we somewhere deep down believe in a violent God who promotes just and holy violence? Do we ever use the Bible as weapon?

 

I hope that as Quakers the answer to those are all “no.” But let’s be honest, there have been times when we have failed.  There were Quakers who owned slaves – while Levi and Catherine Coffin were working to set them free.  There were segregated Quaker Meetings where blacks were only allowed to worship from the balcony.  There were and still are Quakers who oppress women in leadership rolls and Quakers who believe Islam and Muslims are all like their extremist factions.  There are Quakers who believe immigrants and refuges need to stay out of our country whether in danger or not, that LGBTQ folks have no place in a meeting unless they make a change.  And there are Quakers who are in favor of gentrification and the moving out of brown-skinned people out of neighborhoods without even knowing what they are doing.

 

But at First Friends and throughout Quakerdom, my hope is that instead of being a people who pull out “genocide cards” or seek to discriminate in the name of God for power or profit, we would be constantly seeking a return to that Quaker way rooted in love - or as our own Faith and Practice says, “God’s Law of Love.”  Just listen, in light of what I have shared this morning, to two short sections of our Faith and Practice.   

 

The Friends “…conception of a Light Within as an endowment of persons makes it impossible for Friends to draw lines of distinction in capacity or privilege between different races or nations.”  

 

Friends believe that any racial discrimination is essentially a violation of God’s law of love, whether legal enactment or by inequitable practices which interfere with democratic liberties or cultural or economic development. To dwell together in friendly relations on a basis of mutual respect, courtesy, and understanding works toward the fulfillment of this law of love.

 

The atrocities of our past, do not need be the atrocities of our future. In a world that still is buying into Doctrines of Discovery and Dominion but not into the stewardship and care of our neighbors and the earth, Quakers must show the way. It is our time to be an example of voice again, to live by “God’s Law of Love” and reverse the patterns that many Christians and even Quakers have and continue to buy into. 

 

As we enter into waiting worship, I want to read to you and those listening online the queries for this morning:

 

  • What lately has caused my eyes to be wide open?

  • Do I carry a “genocide card” in my pocket?

  • What atrocities are we facing, today, and how might the Church help instead of hinder? What might be First Friend’s role in addressing these atrocities?

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10-06-19 - When Love is the Way

When Love is the Way

Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting

Pastor Bob Henry

October 6, 2019

 

1 John 4:20-21 (NRSV)

20 Those who say, “I love God,” and hate their brothers or sisters are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen. 21 The commandment we have from him is this: those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.

 

 

This morning, on this World Quaker Day, I want to return to where we left off last week, which was, what does it mean for Quakers to again embrace the way of Jesus rooted in love. 

 

One Sunday after a Meeting for Worship in Oregon, I had a member come up to me and inform me that my preaching about love was simply a social gospel and not the “true gospel of Jesus.” Finding this interesting yet a bit confusing since I was teaching on Jesus’ actual words about love, I stated that I thought love was big enough to contain both a social gospel and whatever he was claiming the gospel of Jesus was (between you and me, I saw no difference between the two). So, I asked him to help me understand how he saw the gospel of Jesus. He emphatically and with wagging finger said I should spend more time preaching about sins and how to get right with Jesus. Saying, “People need to know they are sinners and in need of a savior – that is the gospel.” 

 

So, what happened to the gospel being about good news? – actually I am pretty sure the word “gospel” literally means “good news.”  When did it get turned into knowing we are sinners? Let’s be honest, I think we all know too well that we miss the mark, that we fail, make bad choices, seek revenge, hurt and slander others…I could go on and on… 

 

But do we all know that we are loved?   [Pause]

 

I believe that may be getting more to the root of the gospel – the good news that our world so desperately needs and is hungering for today.  I have shared before that in Oregon, I would often end our Meeting for Worship with a benediction that included the phrase, “God loves you, God is not mad at you, and God will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Just speaking those words changed people’s lives.  I would see tears flow as I said them. People would remark that those words gave them hope because for too long they had been told God was made at them and didn’t love them unless they lived an impossible life.    

 

Telling people they are loved, showing them they are loved, and allowing them to love in return is more than just good news, it was the way of Jesus. 

 

Take for example the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7), Brian McLaren points out that

 

“Jesus makes an audacious statement:  God generously showers both the good and evil with rain and sun.  In other words, God’s love is completely nondiscriminatory. God loves us not because we are so deserving and lovable, but because God is so loving, without limitation or discrimination.”

 

Actually, Jesus emphasized this point by saying that true perfection and maturity which we should aspire toward, is love without discrimination because that is how God loves. 

 

How often is our love discriminatory in our world today? [Pause]  

 

Jesus showed us through example after example that love is the center of everything he did. 

·        His disciples see a bunch of pesky kids and want to send them away – Jesus welcomes them.

·        His disciples see a woman from another culture hated by the Jews and wants to send her away – Jesus listens to her and meets her needs.

·        A crowd refuses to acknowledge Zaccheaus – Jesus sees him and treats him with dignity and respect – even goes to his home for a meal. 

·        A group of nobility at a formal banquet looks down upon a disreputable women – Jesus sees her as someone who has loved much and so must be forgiven much.

 

And there are so many more examples…even at the end of his life as he is giving his farewell speech to his followers, Jesus makes it simple, summing it up very Quakerly I might add, by saying

 

“You are my friends. Love one another as I have loved you.”

 

Jesus’ life so moved the Apostle Paul, that he migrated from being a rule-giver, all about religious correctness, and even killing those who did not follow rightly to saying this, “The only thing that matters is faith expressing itself in love” (which happened to be our text from last week).   

 

We must remember that Jesus and Paul were both good Jews – they would have known the centrality of love from early on.  This was the major theme of the Great Shema of the Jewish faith from Deuteronomy 6:4-8, which reads:

 

4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

 

It all began in love and Jesus went even further with this …by quoting and then adding on to the Great Shema (something that would have received the attention of every Jew.) Jesus said, Yes, love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength, but there is a second as equally important, love your neighbor as yourself. 

 

So, what does this mean for First Friends and Quakerdom in general.  I think this is where Brian McLaren is speaking to our condition.  Brian says that what needs to happen is that churches/meetings “need to become ‘schools’ or ‘studios’ of love” teaching people to live a life of love, from the heart, for God, for all people (no exceptions), and for all creation.”

 

I think our own Friends Committee on National Legislation identified their own migration to these thoughts, when they went from bumper stickers that read “War is Not the Answer” to “Love Thy Neighbor (No Exceptions).” 

 

Brian McLaren had me imagining what it might be like if all the churches and meetings here in Indianapolis decided to take people at every age and ability level and help them become the most loving version of themselves possible. Now, that is a beautiful thought.

 

I have a feeling the “Church” might be more effective at helping people face the challenges of life – challenges that normally would make them bitter, self-absorbed, callous, or hateful, and instead help them to be more open, courageous, loving, and generous. People may even begin to recognize where they are straying from the way of love and help people get back on the path. Too often, I sense we don’t believe our actions, our love, can change our environment or the greater world, so we have given up.

 

Yet, just think about that for a moment.  One of the greatest fears people have in our world today is not being loved – not being loved by parents, children, spouses, friends, co-workers, even churches.

 

I was reading an article on the Luis Huete website this week about someone most of us know, who could be the spokesman for those fearing not being loved. That person is Michael Scott on the T.V. show The Office. The article said that Michael Scott (played by Steve Carell) is a clear example of someone who fears not being loved and the consequences of being ruled by this fear. Whenever Michael gets involved, things almost always get botched up. It’s not because he lacks intelligence, but rather it is because he endlessly yearns to be the one who saves the day, or comforts someone, or has the funniest one-liner… because he wants to be the “World’s Best Boss” (as the mug on his desk exclaims) and the way he has achieved that is by making himself “necessary” to others.

 

I think the world is filled with Michael Scotts – the reason we love The Office is because deep down we all can relate – we all fear deep down not being loved. Many in our world are longing, searching, and hungering for someone to love them for who they are. But, what if the church made it a priority to address that fear of not being loved?

 

Brian McLaren says it this way…

 

“Imagine what would happen if for the next five hundred years, our churches put as much energy into the formation of generous Christlike disciples as we have put into getting people to believe certain things or show up at certain buildings or observe certain taboos or support certain political or economic ideologies or keep certain buildings open and people gainfully employed.  Imagine how differently love-motivated teachers and engineers would teach and design; how differently love-directed lawyers and doctors would seek justice and promote well-being, how differently love-driven businesspeople would hire, fire, budget, and negotiate; how differently love-guided voters would vote; and how differently love-guided scholars would relate to students and their subjects. Imagine!

 

My hope is that we will begin moving from just imagining this to living it out. Here at First Friends, I believe we are already on this path and doing many things to help produce love-motivated, love-directed, love-driven, love-guided people.  Actually, in the “The Great Spiritual Migration” Brian McLaren shares a description of a church trying to live this way. As I read the description, I thought it so easily could describe us at First Friends.  It reads,

 

It’s probably important to start making it clear that we’re not the ones who “finally got the Bible right.” Neither do we possess the secret to life, exclusive access to God or “Seven Steps to Satisfaction.” We are, however, powerfully draw to the person of Jesus, his teachings, and even more so, his life.  So we are experimenting, and failing, and building a community that collectively follows his Way; hoping, trusting, and even doubting that it might seed something beautiful in the world. Namely; full and abundant life for all creation.  We think the TRUTH about LIFE may just be LOVE and LOVE may just be the WAY.

 

That describes First Friends rather well!

 

Well, as I conclude this morning, I return to the fact that it is World Quaker Day. This is actually only the 6th annual World Quaker Day put on by Friends World Committee on Consultation.  As I was looking at the materials and theme I noticed the first line of FWCC’s mission which reads,  

 

“Answering God’s call to universal love….”

 

How appropriate to what we are talking about. 

 

As well, FWCC’s theme for World Quaker Day is Sustainability: Planting seeds of renewal for the world we love.  This is a good reminder that this way of love we are talking about includes a love for our earth as well.  Not only are we learning to love our neighbors and ourselves but the earth that is our home.  In The Brother’s Karamazov, Dostoevsky captures this universal love for all of creation – may it be our sending thoughts this morning.   

 

“Love all of God’s creation, both the whole of it and every grain of sand. Love every leaf, every ray of God’s Light. Love Animals, love plants, love each thing.  If you love each thing, you will perceive the mystery of God in things.  Once you have perceived it, you will begin tirelessly to perceive more and more of it every day.  And you will come at last to love the whole would with entire, universal love.” 

 

May this be so! 

 

As we enter into Waiting Worship, I would like to read the queries for us to ponder and for those listening online. 

  • Do we know that we are loved?  Who is letting us know? 

  • In what ways are we discriminatory with our love? 

  • Where do I sense fear in not being loved? 

  • In what ways does/should First Friends produce love-motivated, love-directed, love-driven, and love guided Friends?   

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